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The second characteristic component of regret is a sense of bewilderment.
后悔第二波就是困惑感。
So the other thing I thought about there in my bedroom that night was, "How could I have done that? What was I thinking?"
那天晚上我在臥室里想的就是“我怎么做出這樣的事情？我到底在想什么？”
This real sense of alienation from the part of us that made a decision we regret.
這是嘗試把做出后悔決定的那部分自己跟自身孤立起來。
We can't identify with that part. We don't understand that part.
我們無法認同那部分自己。無法理解那部分。
And we certainly don't have any empathy for that part-which explains the third consistent component of regret, which is an intense desire to punish ourselves.
而我們絕對不喜歡那部分自己—這就帶來了后悔第三波，一種強烈的自我懲罰的愿望。
That's why, in the face of our regret, the thing we consistently say is, "I could have kicked myself."
這就是我們面對悔恨的時候，總是自我責難：“真想抽自己一巴掌！”
The fourth component here is that regret is what psychologists call perseverative.
第四波就是心理學家所謂的表現執拗。
To perseverate means to focus obsessively and repeatedly on the exact same thing.
表現執拗就是不斷地強迫性地重復同一件事情。
Now the effect of perseveration is to basically take these first three components of regret and put them on an infinite loop.
而表現執拗的結果就是，持續不停地重復后悔的前三個階段。
So it's not that I sat there in my bedroom that night, thinking, "Make it go away."
那天晚上我就坐在臥室里想“我不要這樣！”
It's that I sat there and I thought, "Make it go away. Make it go away. Make it go away. Make it go away."
我就這么坐著一直想“不要這樣，不要這樣，不要這樣，不要這樣?！?/div>
So if you look at the psychological literature, these are the four consistent defining components of regret.
如果你查看心理學文獻，這些就是悔恨的四個階段。
