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How to Accept Compliments
如何接受漂亮的贊美
From a very young age, all of us were taught how to accept a gift: say thank you, say something nice about the gift and, above all, don’t say you don’t like it (even if you don’t) because that will hurt the feelings of the giver.
從很小的年齡開始，我們所有人就被教導(dǎo)如何你去接受禮物：說謝謝，說禮物很漂亮，最重要的是，不要說你不喜歡它(即使你真的不喜歡)因?yàn)槟菢訒?huì)傷害送給你禮物人的心。
This advice is as good today as it was when you were five years old. It still applies whenever you receive a gift—and that includes the gift of a compliment.
這個(gè)建議像你五歲時(shí)那樣好一樣。無論你收到一個(gè)什么樣的禮物，你都一直可以去贊美。
Graciously accepting a compliment in any setting is not only good manners, it’s a sign of someone who is confident and self-assured. It’s also a way to build rapport by acknowledging the compliment paid.
欣然的去接受任何一個(gè)禮物，這不僅僅是禮貌的，這是一種自信，是自信的人的表現(xiàn)。這也是一種承認(rèn)建立融洽的一種方式。
Today’s lesson on accepting compliments will help you see that this little thing can be a huge boost to your reputation.
今天接受贊美的課程會(huì)幫助你認(rèn)識(shí)到一點(diǎn)小的事情對于提升你的榮譽(yù)有很大的作用。
There are a number of theories as to why people have a hard time accepting compliments. Reasons range from wanting to appear modest or not feeling as if the compliment is deserved to doubting the sincerity of the person giving the compliment.
社交技巧值得做的更好有一些理論是關(guān)于為什么人們很難接受贊美。原因包括出現(xiàn)的一些不確定的感覺就像那些給你贊美的人是值得懷疑的。
What you may not realize, however, is that rejecting, deflecting, or not properly acknowledging a compliment creates a negative impression for three specific reasons.
你可能沒有意識(shí)到，然而，承認(rèn)負(fù)面影響的三個(gè)原因是拒絕，婉轉(zhuǎn)或者不正確的接受的贊美。
1. Discounts the intentions of the person giving the compliment
2. Sends the message that you think the giver’s opinion is flawed
3. Suggests that you don’t value your own abilities or talents
1.給向你贈(zèng)送的禮物打折扣。2.發(fā)消息說你認(rèn)為贈(zèng)送禮物的人的觀點(diǎn)是有缺陷的。3.表明你不重視自己的能力或才能。
Remember that everybody is busy. We all have our own concerns to look after, so when someone takes notice of something we’ve done well and makes an effort to tell us, we owe it to them to acknowledge their thoughtfulness.
記住每個(gè)人都很忙。我們每個(gè)人都有問題，因此當(dāng)某人發(fā)現(xiàn)我們做的很好的一些事情時(shí)會(huì)努力的告訴我們，我們感謝他們的體貼。
Do You Recognize a Compliment When You Hear One?
當(dāng)你聽到一個(gè)贊美，你是否真正認(rèn)出那是一個(gè)贊美?
Defined as an expression of praise, commendation, or admiration, compliments should be pretty easy to recognize, but can be tough to spot when we’re focused on ourselves. Here are two examples:
為表揚(yáng)、贊美、羨慕和恭維下一個(gè)定義，恭維是最容易被認(rèn)出的，但是當(dāng)我們專注于自己時(shí)很難發(fā)現(xiàn)這些，這里有兩個(gè)例子：
“Have you lost weight, Mary? You look terrific!”
“你在減肥嗎?邁瑞，你看起來很好!”
“It must be the outfit.”
一定是這件外套讓我看起來瘦了。
Mary is sending a message that she’s self conscious about her weight and/or she doesn’t deserve credit for her efforts.
邁瑞發(fā)了一條信息說她對自己體重的認(rèn)識(shí)使她不值得被表揚(yáng)她所付出的努力。
“I’m really happy with the way you handled yourself on that call, Bill.”
“比爾，我真的很高興你通過電話這么好的方法表達(dá)?！?/div>
“Yea, but I wish I would have remembered to tell them about the discount.Bill is sending a message that he doesn’t think he’s good enough and that he is not able to see the potential benefit that may come from his contribution.
“是的，但是我希望我會(huì)記得告訴他們，他們所忽視的?！北葼柊l(fā)了一條信息說，他不認(rèn)為他足夠好，因?yàn)樗荒芸吹乃龀龅呢暙I(xiàn)的潛在的價(jià)值。
