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Here's Why This One is Hard, by Liz
它為何如此艱難，莉茲
Well, duh. It's about sex. Talking about sex. Asking about sex. Asking for sex. Jeez. That's really fun.
好吧。這事關于性。談論性，問詢性，索要性。天吶，真有趣。
And I don't know about you, but I would much rather believe, any day of the week, that a man is too scared, too stressed, too sad, too spiritual, too angry, too fat, too crazy, too in love with his ex-girlfriend, too scared, too sensitive, too sunburned, too in love with his mother, too homicidal, too anything, than find out that he's really just not attracted to me.
我不了解你，但是我寧愿相信，不管一個禮拜的哪一天，一個男人太害怕，壓力太大，太難過，太精神，太生氣，太胖，太瘋狂，過于深愛前女友，太恐懼，太敏感，曬太黑，過于深愛母親，太嗜殺，太怎么樣，而不是你對他沒有吸引力。
Or that he doesn't want to have sex with me because then it will mean we're in a real relationship, and actually he doesn't really like me that much.
或者他不想跟我做愛是因為這意味著我們將正式步入戀情，實際上他并沒有那么愛我。
It's extra confusing because we're talking about sex (embarrassing) mixed with emotions (mortifying) mixed with our own insecurities (nightmare) .
這更令人困惑，因為我們正在把性（好尷尬）與情感（好窘迫）以及我們自己的不安全感（噩夢）混為一談。
And in the case of long-term relationships, people always tell you the sex goes away anyway, so what does it really matter if it goes away a little sooner than you wanted it to?
而且就長久的戀情而言，人們會說做愛是必然的事，所以它發生的早一些有什么關系？
Isn't the other stuff much more important, like being compatible and him being a good person and potentially a great father?
難道別的東西不是更加重要么？比如說二者和睦共處，他會變成一個好人以及一個好父親。
Because it's such a psychologically complex issue and talking about it is so excruciating, I would almost be able to settle for the relationship with the guy who only likes sleepovers, or the boyfriend with the presumed low sex drive.
因為這是一個十分復雜的心理問題，討論它讓人感覺很難以忍受，我情愿和這個只喜歡過夜者的男人或低性欲的男朋友定下戀愛關系。
I mean, he still enjoys my company.
我是說，他依然喜歡我的陪伴。
I might be able to sleep next to the guy who has stopped wanting to have sex with me, without saying a peep.
我可以和一個只想跟我做愛的人一起睡，啥都不說。
Or keep dating the guy who seems to want to be my boyfriend but doesn't seem to have any interest in ever seeing me naked.
或者繼續和這個看起來想當我男朋友但是對我裸體毫無性趣的人戀愛。
I might even be able to exist in a peaceful marriage with a wonderful man who is more like a best friend than a husband.
我也許甚至會和一個更似好友而不是丈夫的好男人開展平靜的婚姻。
If it wasn't for those goddamn happy couples I know.
如果我不知道那些該死的幸福夫妻的話。
And I'm not talking about the ones you see on the streets slobbering all over each other.
而且我說的并非那些在街道上對著對方流口水的人。
Who knows what they're like behind closed doors.
誰知道他們關上門會變成什么樣。
I'm talking about my friends who I know quite well, who manage to juggle work, careers, intimacy, even kids, and still manage to have sexy, loving relationships.
我說的是我一個很了解的朋友，她兼顧工作，事業，性，甚至孩子，還能有性感，有愛的戀情。
I could easily settle for less if I happened to be the type of person, upon seeing these couples, just thought, What's the big deal about that?
如果我是那種看到這些夫妻后，只是想想這并沒什么大不了的類型，我會很容易知足安定。
