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The "Maybe We're Just Different" Excuse
“也許我們只是有所不同”的借口
Dear Greg,
親愛的格雷格，
I live with my boyfriend who doesn't like to talk on the phone.
我和我的男朋友住在一起，他不喜歡在電話里聊天。
So when he goes out of town, he won't call me—even to let me know that he got there safely.
所以當他出城也不會打電話給我，甚至都不向我報個平安。
He just won't call me. He goes out of town fairly often for business.
他就是不給我打電話。他經常出城去出差。
We fight about it all the time. Sometimes I think that our styles are just different, and I'm going to have to learn how to compromise.
我們一直在吵架。有時我想我們只是生活方式不同，我要學會如何妥協。
But then I think that if you're into someone, you would want to call them and talk to them while you're away from them. Am I crazy?
但我想如果你喜歡一個人，當你離開他們的時候會想打電話給他們和他們交談不是么。我瘋了嗎？
Sighed Rachel
瑞秋
Dear Not Crazy,
親愛的不瘋，
Unless you are dating a spy, this behavior is unwarranted.
除非你約會的對象是間諜，否則這種行為是沒有根據的。
I travel for a living and find that I call my lady three or four times a day.
我靠旅行過活，但我一天給我的夫人打三四次電話。
However, sometimes because of time differences we don't connect.
但是有時候由于時差原因我們不聯系。
But I will, and she will, always leave a message.
但是我倆都會留個信息。
I have to say, as a guy I never liked being told to call, which my wife really never does, and that's why I call her as often as I do.
我不得不說，作為一個男人，我不喜歡被別人要求打電話，我妻子就從不這么做，這就是我為什么經常打電話給她的原因。
We have no rules about calling, but we like and love each other to the degree that we want to talk daily, if not hourly.
我們沒有規定打電話的要求，但我們喜歡和愛對方的程度讓我們每日都想聊天，如果沒辦法每小時都聊的話。
Listen, I do think space in a relationship is good. Missing someone is a sign of a healthy relationship.
聽著，我覺得在戀愛關系中給彼此空間很好。思念某人是健康關系的標志。
Not respecting your need to have some form of connection with him while he's away is not.
但在外出期間不尊重你的需求——想和他保持一定形式的聯系則不是。
Regardless of his dislike for talking on the phone, he should respect and care for you enough to call you, if only because he knows that it will make you happy.
不管他不喜歡在電話里說話，他都應該尊重和在意你，只要他知道這會讓你開心的話。
Gotta make a call, Greg
得打個電話了，格雷格
Yes, it seems like it's just a machine that transmits voice waves over wires and comes in different styles, like cordless, cellular, handheld, and rotary, but the truth is, the phone has officially reached a new high in relationship symbolism.
是的，它好像是一臺機器，在電線上傳輸聲音波，并以不同的方式展現出來，如無線，蜂窩，手持設備，旋轉式機器，但事實是，電話已經正式在戀愛關系中達到了新的高度象征。
Is a phone call just a phone call, or is it really the almighty representation of how much he really cares about you?
一個電話只意味著一個電話嗎？或者它真的是他有多關心你的全能代表？
Probably somewhere in the middle. And a good man will know that and use this handy telecommunication device accordingly.
大概在中間的某個地方。而一個好男人會知道，并據此使用這一電信設備。
E-mails need not apply.
電子郵件不適用。
