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"Mommy, I'm bored." The child's complaint sounds innocent.
媽咪，我很無聊。孩子的抱怨聽起來很無辜。
The tone is demanding: "I need something to do."
其實他是在表達自己想要找點事情做。
It's blaming: "You're not doing anything about it."
他在抱怨你沒有任何帶他干點什么的行動。
And challenging, "Just try one of your useless suggestions."
他還會繼續挑戰，希望你至少用那些沒用的建議敷衍他一下。
What do you do with a kid dying of boredom?
當孩子極度無聊的時，你會做點什么呢？
Before we can think about what to do,
在我們要有所行動之前，
we need to look more closely at what children
應該去更加深入的了解下，
might actually mean when they say, "I'm bored."
孩子說他們無聊時所表達的真實意思。
They might be saying, "I haven't been getting enough sleep,"
他們也許在表達自己沒睡好覺，
in which case high stimulating entertainment is not available.
這時候就不應該讓他們進行刺激神經的娛樂活動。
A more complex message behind boredom might be:
無聊背后傳遞的更加復雜的信息可能是:
"I now have time to dwell on anxieties or fears
現在我有時間來處理我那些進行有趣的活動時，
that are usually pushed aside by interesting activities.
暫時遺忘的不安和恐懼。
It may be that children need time to
這也許因為孩子需要時間去
hide themselves in nothingness in order to unlock their imaginations.
放空自己，盡情發揮自己的想象力。
We know that one way kids work out inner problems is through imaginative play.
有種讓孩子走出心理問題的方法就是假想游戲。
They actually re-create themselves through fantasy,
他們在假想中重塑自己，
make believe games or artistic expression.
假想這些游戲和藝術表達都是真實的。
They can play out emotions that might be too overwhelming,
他們也許會假想自己扮演強大的角色，
e.g. by pretending to be their favorite superhero and fighting their worst fear.
比如假裝自己是最喜愛的超級英雄，用這種方法來克服糟糕的恐懼感。
