Don’t underestimate the influence your guy’s parents have over him. The smart woman knows the value of steering them into her corner.
不要低估你你男朋友的父母對他的影響。聰明的女孩知道讓男朋友的父母喜歡上自己的價值。
Step 1: Quiz boyfriend 詢問你男朋友有關他父母的情況
Quiz your boyfriend. Are his parents liberal or conservative? Religious or agnostic? What are their hobbies? Did they take a recent trip?
The more you know, the better you’ll be able to make pleasant chitchat and avoid conversational minefields.
Step 2: Dress conservatively 要謹慎穿衣
Err on the conservative side with your clothing. You shouldn’t feel like you have to lose your style entirely, but avoid midriff blouses, low-low riders, stilettos, and anything skintight.
Step 3: Tone down makeup 化淡妝
Tone down the makeup.
Wear clear gloss or neutral-colored lipstick. You don’t want his folks to be reluctant to get close to you for fear of greasy lipstick stains.
Step 4: Bring a gift 帶份禮物
Bring a gift. You can’t go wrong with a bouquet of flowers. Hydrangeas, mums, sweetheart roses, and lilies will stay fresh for several days.
If you’re in it to win it, send the flowers to his mother a few days before the get-together with a card saying you’re looking forward to meeting her. It’s sucking up, but it works.
Step 5: Pitch in 幫忙干活
Pitch in. No one likes a guest who sits around waiting to be served. The more you help, the more his family will see you as part of the gang.
Step 6: Don't correct or criticize 不要責備或糾正你男朋友的行為
Don’t correct or criticize your boyfriend—it’s the fastest way to make an enemy of his adoring mom. In fact, slip in some compliments.
Step 7: Send a thank-you note 發(fā)一封感謝信
Send a written thank-you note. Old-fashioned? Yes. But very impressive.