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老想著反駁而不是傾聽
It’s ok to admit — most of us go into a fight knowing what points we want to make, how we want the other person to feel, and what we want for “winning”. This is a bad attitude to have, though, because any discussion should have at least two sides to be fair. But when you know exactly what you want to say, you often think about that instead of listening to what the other person is saying. Don’t just focus on the first few words your partner says — listen to their whole statement, take a moment to absorb it, and then think about what you want to say in a return.
承認(rèn)這點(diǎn)沒什么-我們多數(shù)人都會(huì)為了堅(jiān)持己見、控制他人感受、“贏得”立場(chǎng)而挑起爭(zhēng)吵。這種態(tài)度很惡劣，因?yàn)槊繄?chǎng)討論至少應(yīng)該有兩方參加才算公平。可一旦你清楚知道自己想要表達(dá)什么的時(shí)候，通常你都會(huì)護(hù)著那個(gè)想法，而非去傾聽對(duì)方。也不要逮著對(duì)方開頭的只字片語不放-要傾聽他們的全部訴說，再好好地吸收，最后思量著怎樣回應(yīng)。
