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Remember that old tune "Friday, I'm in Love"? Well, some daters are looking to make it a reality.
據(jù)CNN報(bào)道，還記得那首《星期五，我們相愛吧》的舊歌曲嗎？是啊，現(xiàn)今一些約會(huì)中的情侶指望把它變成現(xiàn)實(shí)。
"I have found a wonderful weekend lover," reads a testimonial by "Leah, 38" on the new dating website, parttimelove.co.uk. "He asks for no more, and the times we spend together are magical."
“我找到了一個(gè)心儀的周末情人，”38歲的利亞在新約會(huì)網(wǎng)站——parttimelove.co.uk上的一篇文章中寫道，“他不要求什么，我們?cè)谝黄鹈畈豢裳浴！?/div>
The site, launched in early January, is the brainchild of relationship author and blogger Helen Croydon. Its target demographic is people who want to be independent but also want to fall in love, she says.
這家網(wǎng)站元月上旬開始運(yùn)營，是根據(jù)戀人關(guān)系作者和博主海倫·克羅伊登的想法建成。她說，網(wǎng)站的目標(biāo)人群是那些又想獨(dú)立又想戀愛的人。
Some may wonder whether Part Time Love is simply the newest in a line of dating sites where users troll for one-night stands. But the site isn't just Tinder with a romantic sheen, if you believe its marketing spiel.
一些人可能會(huì)發(fā)問，在一系列會(huì)員尋找一夜情的網(wǎng)站中，臨時(shí)情人網(wǎng)是否只是最新的網(wǎng)站。但是如果你把它的廣告詞當(dāng)真，它就不僅是用來交友了。
"We are not a no-strings website. We are for singles looking for regular partners with mutual attraction, genuine friendship, respect and a magical spark but whom have no expectations of moving in after three months and value their free time and independence," claims the site, which users must opt into via other, more established dating sites.
“我們的網(wǎng)站并非是一夜情網(wǎng)站。我們?yōu)閱紊碚呓ⅲ屗麄冋业较嗷ノ檎嬉馇校嗷プ鹬睾图で樗纳湟庵腥耍幌Ｍ?個(gè)月后就搬到家里來，看重?zé)o拘無束和獨(dú)立自主。”網(wǎng)站聲稱，其會(huì)員必須通過更成熟的其它約會(huì)網(wǎng)站選擇進(jìn)入。
Croydon asserts that a low-maintenance or part-time relationship is distinctively different than the eloquently named "booty call," or the even more lucid "casual encounter" in that the goal is lasting love.
克羅伊登聲稱，低頻來往或者叫臨時(shí)關(guān)系與被生動(dòng)地稱為“上床電話”或更好懂的“邂逅”不盡相同，因?yàn)槠淠繕?biāo)是長久情愛。
Croydon admits it's not for everyone. She envisions her demographic as users in their mid-to-late 30s and early 40s who are set in their ways and might find it difficult to adapt domestically to a new partner.
克羅伊登承認(rèn)，網(wǎng)站并非適合每個(gè)人。她預(yù)計(jì)目標(biāo)人群是30多歲到剛過40歲的人，他們行為方式固定，可能難以適應(yīng)新伴侶。
"They're realistic on the fairytale," she says.
“他們?cè)诠适吕锸钦鎸?shí)的，”她說。
Croydon explores what she calls "low-maintenance relationships" in her new book "Screw the Fairytale: A Modern Girl's Guide to Sex and Love," in which she debunks the traditional ideal of the omnipresent partner. Croydon says she never wants to get married or have kids. (She's also quite familiar with unorthodox dating styles; her first book, "Sugar Daddy Diaries," was about her penchant for older men.)
克羅伊登在她的新書《搞亂神話：現(xiàn)代女孩性與愛的指南》中探索她所謂的“低頻來往”，在書中她揭開了無所不在的伴侶的傳統(tǒng)理念。克羅伊登說，她從來沒想結(jié)婚生子。（她非常熟悉非傳統(tǒng)交往；她的第一本書《色狼日記》就是寫關(guān)于她偏好老男人。）
"You don't have to see someone three to four nights a week to express love," she told CNN over the phone from London.
“你不必每周三四夜去見某個(gè)人表達(dá)愛，”她從倫敦通過電話告訴有線新聞網(wǎng).
"In every other aspect of life, we've gone for convenience, independence and where individualism is promoted," she says. "Yet, you have this socially approved model of relationship that you live together."
"在生活的其他每一個(gè)方面，我們尋求個(gè)人舒適，獨(dú)立，推崇個(gè)人主義，”她說，“然而，你的這種同居關(guān)系的生活模式要得到社會(huì)認(rèn)可。”
Croydon says for it to work, the partners' emphasis is still on a genuine relationship, in that there is romance and sparks but "without all the monotony and obligation of a full-time relationship."
克羅伊登說，為了進(jìn)展順利，還是要強(qiáng)調(diào)伴侶的真實(shí)關(guān)系，因?yàn)榧扔欣寺图で椋帧巴耆珱]有專任伴侶的單調(diào)和義務(wù)。”
Jill Weber, a Virginia-based clinical psychologist and author of"Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy: Why Women Settle for One-Sided Relationships" says this particular style of dating can certainly feel empowering as it allows daters to compartmentalize the relationship.
《與人上床，缺乏親密：為什么女人們滿足于單邊關(guān)系》一書的作者、弗吉尼亞州的臨床心理學(xué)家吉爾·韋伯說，這種特殊的約會(huì)方式肯定能感覺增加了自主權(quán)，因?yàn)樵试S約會(huì)者劃分這種關(guān)系界限。
"It protects you; there's less vulnerability," she says.
“這種關(guān)系保護(hù)你，讓你少受傷，”她說。
Sooner or later, though, she says one or both partners might catch stronger feelings and want something more.
她說，但是早晚有一天，一方或者雙方可能會(huì)有更強(qiáng)烈的感情和有更多的要求。
"Ultimately, what connects us with one another is being vulnerable," she asserts.
“最終，把我們彼此聯(lián)系在一起的是人性的脆弱，”她斷言。
On the opposite end of the spectrum, Weber says it's also important for each partner to feel like they have their own life.
韋伯說，相反，每一個(gè)情侶都感覺他們有自己的生活也是很重要的。
"You should feel safe and at ease in your relationship," she says, meaning that you aren't constantly worrying where your partner is and vice versa. If that's not the case, a conversation about space is in order. Failing that, it might be time to re-evaluate the healthiness of the relationship.
“在你的關(guān)系中，你應(yīng)該感到安全和自在，”她說，意思是你不必時(shí)刻擔(dān)心你的伴侶在哪兒，反之亦然。如果情況不是那樣，就應(yīng)該進(jìn)行關(guān)于個(gè)人空間的談話了。如果沒能這樣，可能是時(shí)候重新評(píng)估關(guān)系的健康狀態(tài)了。
As for Croydon, she's still single and ready to mingle part-time.
至于克羅伊登，她仍然單身一人，準(zhǔn)備結(jié)交臨時(shí)情人。
