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4. Draw conclusions with evidence:
根據事實得出結論：
Look at the evidence, look at the events, look at patterns and don't base your conclusions on assumptions. For example, don't just assume someone will cheat you because they look like or in some ways act like an ex you didn't get along with. Look at other elements to see if there is any evidence for your assumption.
根據事實得出結論：看看事實，看看事件，看看形式，千萬別把結論基于猜想上。比如，不要因為某些人看起來像在騙你或是表現的讓你覺得不怎么舒服，就認為他們的確在騙你。看看有沒有其他證據能證實你的觀點吧。
5. Don't be that individual:
別把事情過分個人化：
The majority of how people interact with you is due to their own personality, strengths, and baggage and does not have as much to do with you. Pay attention to how to differentiate between different interaction signals. For example, instead of immediately getting frustrated because the waitress was a little late attending to you, think that maybe she is having a really tough day or too may tables to take care of.
大部分時候人們如何和你交往都取決于他們的個性、能力和精神狀態，和你其實沒多大關系。注意如何區分不同的交際信號。比如，與其為遲來的服務生感到生氣，不如換位思考，想想他今天心情不好，或者實在是太忙了吧。
6. Don't do “either/or” thinking:
別做選擇題
Black and white thinking based on perfectionistic thought is counterproductive. Every time a thought pops up and has words like “should” or “must,” challenge it. For example, instead of saying “this should be done this way,” say something like, “I prefer it this way but I am sure there are other ways to do and am willing to be open.
基于完美的非黑即白想法反而會讓你達不到預期的效果。每次出來一個想法，有著類似于“應該”“必須”這樣的字眼，那么不妨改變一下吧。比如與其說“應該這么去完成”，不如說“我喜歡這個方法，但是我覺得肯定會有更好的方法能達到我們預期的效果。”
