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1. Lack of faith (beliefs )
1. 缺乏信念。
Most people do not know what the expectationsare in one's whole life, simply put it, you do not know what you want.Confucius ate coarse rice, drank water, didn't even have pillows when sleepingand used his arms as pillows, but Confucius said, “Happiness is within”; Hesaid, “A basket of cooked rice, a ladle of water, living in the ghetto alley”,others might think this is an unbearable life, but Confucius was able to “keephis happiness”. Why? Because he knew what he is pursuing in this life.
許多人都不知道他人生中最期待的是什么，僅僅放下，你不知道你想要什么。孔子吃糙米喝水，甚至睡覺都沒有枕頭，而僅僅以手臂為枕，但孔夫子說，“樂亦在其中矣”；他說：“飯疏食，飲水，曲肱而枕之”，其他人可能認為這是不能忍受的生活，但孔子卻能“保持幸福”。為什么呢？因為他知道他追求的就是這種生活。
2. Always comparing
2. 老是比較。
Western saying goes, Whether a person isfortunate or not, happy or not, does not depend on how big of accomplishmenthe/she has achieved, but from the way how the neighbors look at them. When whatwe are pursuing is not happiness, but to be happier than others, then happinesswill be even further away from us.
西方諺語說，一個人是否幸運，是否快樂，不取決于他取得了多大的成就，而是他的鄰居怎么看他。一旦我們追求的不是如何幸福，而是怎么比別人幸福時，幸福反而會更加遠離我們。
3. Living in happiness without realizing it
3. 生在福中不知福。
If a light has been constantly lit, you willnot pay attention to it, but if it is brighter and darker at times, or if it ison and off at times, you will notice. Similarly, sometimes we are envied byothers, but we hardly notice it. Only if one day we loss that, then we willrealize.
如果燈被點亮，你就不會去注意它，如果它時亮時暗或者時關時開，你就會注意到它。同樣道理，有時我們被別人艷羨，我們不大發覺。可一旦某天失去了，我們就會察覺。
4. Not moved by beautiful things
4. 缺乏發現美的眼睛。
"The spring wind is so selfless, not askingfor anything in return but blossomed millions of flowers." We may not have theability to create beauty, but have we been appreciating the beauty of nature,or the beautiful things created by others? We often ignore and unaware of thenatural beauty, artistic beauty, spiritual beauty and many beautiful things inlife around us.
“春風如此無私，不問索取，卻使得遍地花開。”我們可能不能創造美，但可以欣賞自然美，或者其他人創造的美。我們常常忽視或不了解自然之美、藝術之美，精神之美以及一切我們身邊美好的事物。
5. Do not know how to give
5. 不知奉獻。
Zhang Shangying from Song dynasty said,"Nothing is happier than being happy of doing good deeds", only a person whoknows how to give rather than just take can be truly happy. Charity is not aprivilege of the rich. Donating millions to disaster relief is charity, give astranger a smile is also charity.
宋朝的張商英曾說，“沒有比做好事更快樂的了。”只有當一個人懂得給予而不是一味索取的時候才會感到真正的快樂。慈善不是富人的特權。捐獻幾百萬救災是慈善，給陌生人個微笑也是慈善。
6. Not being content
6. 不知足。
How much does a person need to be satisfied?Never enough!
一個人什么時候才能滿足？永遠不會滿足。
When you are not happy because you don't haveshoes, have you noticed those who do not have feet? Contentment bringshappiness.
當你不滿足是因為你沒有一雙鞋的時候，你注意到有些人沒有穿鞋的腳了嗎？知足常樂。
Harold Albert is the academic director of the University of California. Once he walked on the streetfull of dissatisfaction and confusion because he had already lost his job andwas looking for new work. He walked in the road like a depressed person,completely lost confidence and courage.
Harold Albert是加州大學的教務處主任。有次，他曾滿懷不滿和困惑地走在街頭，因為他丟了工作，在找新的工作。他走在路上像個沮喪的人，失去了信心和勇氣。
Just then, a man with no legs came, sitting ona small wooden platform which was attached with wheels from old skates. Hecarried 2 pieces of wood and wheeled himself across the street.
就在這時，一個沒有腿的人經過，坐在一個附著在舊溜冰輪子的木頭平板上，帶著兩片木頭，滑過街道。
When Harold saw him, he had just crossed thestreet, trying to raise himself a few inches to get on the pavement. Harold'seyes met his, the disabled man said happily, "Good morning! Sr. Nice morningweather, is not it?" At the time Harold felt a strange sense of satisfaction.He thought, I have 2 legs, he has no legs, but he is so happy, what reason do Ihave to be upset? So Harold became more confident, and went on happily.
Harold發現了他，他剛穿過街，試著把自己舉高幾英寸以登上人行道。他們四目相對，那個殘疾人高興地說：“早上好！早上天氣真好，不是嗎？”這時Harold感到一種莫名的滿足。他想，他有兩條腿，而他卻沒有腿，但他仍然開心，他又有什么理由心煩呢？所以，Harold變得更加自信，快樂地生活著。
7. Anxiety is everywhere
7. 無處不焦慮。
Anxiety of safety, wealth, health and anxietyof children's education and employment… Only a person who is carefree can behappy.
擔心安全、財富、健康，擔心孩子的教育問題和工作……只有當一個人不焦慮時才能幸福快樂。
8. Too much pressure/stress
8. 壓力過大 。
Political pressure, pressure from work,family, emotional stress, financial stress, interpersonal pressure,psychological pressure and physical pressure
政治壓力，工作、家庭壓力，情緒上的壓力，經濟壓力，人際關系壓力，心理和生理壓力。
9. Standards are too high
9. 標準太高。
Using person's own standard to demand others "If I can, why can't you?"
用自己的標準去要求他人，“我能做到，為什么你不能？”
Using other's standard to demand oneself, "Ifhe can, why can't I?"
用他人的標準來要求自己，“他能做到，為什么我不能？”
10. Not being oneself
10. 不能做回自己。
A person who becomes a good son, a goodhusband, a good father, a good friend, a goodpartner… but if a person cannotbecome someone that himself/herself desires, always fighting with oneself, thenthis person has no balance, and naturally, it is difficult for him/her to betruly happy.
一個人能做到好兒子，好爸爸，好朋友，好伴侶，但是如果一個人不能做到他想做到的，老是和自己斗爭，那么他就平衡不了，自然很難讓他自己真正快樂起來。
