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There is one key factor that can either damage your relationships or deepen them. That factor is your attitude. If you're hoping to grow and maintain positive relationships in your life, read on. Below you will find a 20 step attitude adjustment guaranteed to help you do just that.
有一個可以破壞或者加深你人際關系的重要因素。這個因素就是你的態度。如果你希望在生活中保持并發展積極的人際關系，請讀這篇文章。下面你將會看到20個步驟可以確保你做到。
1. Stop holding grudges. – Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.
不要怨恨。怨恨使你不快樂。
2. Stop complaining.–Instead, use your time and energy to do something about it.
不要抱怨。相反的，用你的時間和精力去解決問題。
3. Stop meaning what you don't say.–People can't read minds. Communicate regularly and effectively.
不要去暗示。別人不能讀懂含義。正常地、有效地溝通。
4. Stop making it all about you.–The world revolves around the sun, not you. Take a moment to acknowledge this truth on a regular basis.
不要太自我。世界是圍著太陽轉，而不是你。承認這條公理吧。
5. Stop lying.–In the long-run the truth always reveals itself. Either you own up to your actions or your actions will ultimately own you.
不要撒謊。不管多久事實總會不證自明。要么你承認你的行為，要么你的行為終會出賣你。
6. Stop blaming. –Blaming others accomplishes nothing. Either you own your problems, or they will own you. Your choice. When you blame others for what you're going through, you deny responsibility–you give-up your power over that part of your life, and you annoy everyone around you in the process.
不要責怪。責怪他人沒有任何用處。要么你有你的問題，要么問題屬于你。這是你的選擇。當你責怪他人的時候，你否認這種責任—你失去生活中一部分的力量，并且你會惹惱你周圍的人。
7. Stop doubting.–If you think that you can't achieve something, I have some news for you, you're probably right. But don't let your self-doubt interfere with other people's dreams. Remember, the one who says it can't be done should never interrupt the one doing it.
不要懷疑（別人的可能性）。如果你認為你不能完成某件事，我要告訴你，你很可能是對的。但是不要讓你的自我懷疑打擾到別人的夢想。請記住，永遠不要去打擾別人在做的事情，就算你認為它不可能實現。
8. Stop interrupting. –Correcting someone when they're blatantly wrong is one thing, but always interjecting your opinions out of turn gets old fast.
不要打擾。當別人有錯誤的時候糾正是一回事，但是常常不合時宜的插入自己的觀點容易加快變老。
9. Stop being selfish. –You get what you put into a relationship. Nothing less, nothing more.
不要太自私。在人際關系中投入多少你就會得到多少。不多也不少。
10. Stop judging. – Everyone is fighting their own unique war. You have no clue what they are going through, just like they have no clue what you’re going through.
不要武斷。—每個人都會與自己有獨特的戰爭。你沒有辦法知道他們此刻正在做什么，就象他們也沒有辦法知道你此刻正在做什么。
