Avoid personalization. Personalization is another cognitive distortion. It is when you take credit for an event for which you didn’t have any control. Many of the negative events you will face will be beyond your control, but you might blame yourself. Got laid off? It might not have anything to do with you and everything to do with the company, but if you personalize this you’ll beat yourself up over it. Again, the solution here is to attack the belief. For each negative event, ask yourself, “Am I responsible for this or was this outside of my control?”

　　拒絕個性化。個性化是另一個認知扭曲，當你對自己沒有把握的事情加以強求的時候，很多負面情況是因為你無法控制而導致的，這種時候如果你再責備自己肯定會火上澆油，讓心情更加糟的。