可可電臺，每期節目一話題，讓英語磨練耳朵的同時學到更多有益的小知識，豐富知識的同時受益于生活。

path of healing

治愈之路

It's Not About You—Really, It's Not

不是你的問題，真的不是你的錯

You know that old saying "it's not you,it's me"? While we usually think of it as a cop-out, a way for someone to spareour feelings, the reality is that it is actually true. People act a certain way,make certain decisions, and choose to life their life a certain way because of their own desires and needs; not because of us.

你知道那句古話“不是你的錯，是我的錯”嗎？通常我們認為這種說法是一種逃避，也是一種舒緩我們感受的方式，而事實上這說法確實是對的。人們以特定的方式表現，做出特定的決定，選擇他們想要的方式生活，因為他們有自己的欲望和需要，而不是因為我們！

When someone is a jerk, or says something nasty, or leaves you, it is because of something going on inside ofthem. Please know that I am not excluding the influence of your own behavior that may have precipitated the break-up, but it comes down to the fact that yourex left because of their reactions and feelings surrounding that event and it may have been the right choice for them.

當某人變成了個混蛋，說了難聽的話，或是離開了你，那是因為他們內心起了變化。請明白我不是要排除你自己行為帶來的影響，這些行為可能也觸發了分手的發生，但事實可以歸結為你的前任離開你是因為他們對待事情的反應和感受有了變化，而這樣做對他們來說也許是一個正確的選擇。

Once a relationship ends, you can't go back and change things no matter how much you want to, so it's best to stop beating yourself up about the past. Forgive yourself for your part in the breakup, learn lessons from it, and try not to take it personally. Realize that you are perfect just the way you are and there is someone out there who will agree.

當一段關系結束，無論你有多想，你都回不去了，也改變不了任何事，所以關于過去，最好就是停止自責。寬容自己，從中吸取教訓，盡量不要獨自忍受痛苦。要知道以自己的方式做，你就是完美的，總有一個人會欣賞你這樣的方式。

【知識點講解】

no matter 無論不管

例句：

Day in, day out, no matter what the weather is like, she walks ten miles.

她不管天氣如何，每天總是不間斷地步行十英里。

No matter what the results of the homemade gift look like, remember it's the thought that counts.

不論自制禮物的結果看起來像什么，心意才是重要。

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