可可電臺，每期節目一話題，讓英語磨練耳朵的同時學到更多有益的小知識，豐富知識的同時受益于生活。

初次約會技巧

Share Secrets

分享秘密

Emotional, personal information exchange during first date conversation promotes powerful feelings of connection.

第一次約會交流感情、互相交換個人信息能大大促進感情的聯系。

A psychologist at the State University of New Yorkat Stony Brook, is interested in how people form romantic relationships, andhe's come up with an ingenious way of taking men and women who have never met before and making them feel close to one another. Given that he has just an hour or so to create the intimacy levels that typically take weeks, months, or years to form, he accelerated the getting-to-know-you process through a set ofthirty-six questions crafted to take the participants rapidly from level one in McAdams's system to level two.

紐約州立大學斯托尼布魯克分校的一位心理學家對于人們是如何形成浪漫關系這方面的研究很感興趣，他想出了一個巧妙的計策把從來沒有見過面的男女讓他們感覺彼此親近。通常需要幾周、幾個月或幾年的時間才能產生親密感，而通過這一策略用一小時左右的時間就可以，他通過制定了一組問題，包括36個問題對參與者進行測試，就加速了美好感覺的產生過程，在麥克亞當斯的系統中，級別迅速從一級提升到二級。

But how effective can this be, really?

但效果到底如何？真有這么神奇嗎?

In under an hour it can create a connection stronger than a lifelong friendship.

在一個小時內建立起來的感情比終身友誼的感情更強烈。

What he found was striking. The intensity of the dialogue partners' bond at the end of the forty-five-minute vulnerability interaction was rated as closer than the closest relationship in the lives of 30 percent of similar students. In other words, the instant connections weremore powerful than many long-term, even lifelong relationships.

他的發現非常驚人。45分鐘的對話時間結束雙方所建立起來的親密感，類似30%的學生在生活中行成的最親密的感情。換句話說，即時建立起來的親密感超越了許多長期培養的感情，甚至比終身培養起來的感情還要強大。

【知識點津】

intimacy n.親密；親近；親昵的言行；性行為

例句：

It takes time to build up intimacy.

建立親密關系是需要時間的。

vulnerability n.弱點，攻擊；易傷性；致命性；脆弱性

例句：

His vulnerability makes him even more lovable.

他的脆弱反倒讓他更加討人喜歡。

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