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College students need to stand back and see where they are in the independence/dependence struggle.
大學生需要退一步來審視自己在獨立性與依賴性的沖突中所處的位置。
Probably one of the most stressful matters for young college students is establishing their sexual identity, which includes relating to the opposite sex and projecting their future roles as men or women. Each must define her or his sexual identity in a feminine or masculine role. These are exciting times yet frustrating times. Probably nothing can make students feel lower or higher emotionally than the way they are relating to whomever they are having a romantic relationship with.
或許對于大學生來說，最有壓力的問題之一就是確立自己的性別身份，這包括與異性的關系以及設計他們未來作為男人或者女人的角色。每個人都必須將其性別定位于女性或者男性角色。這是一個令人興奮的時期也是一個讓人沮喪的時期。可能沒有什么能比戀愛更能讓學生們在情感上大起大落的了。
At the same time, these young adults are learning how to give and receive affection in the adult world. This aspect of growth deals not only with interaction with the opposite sex but with friends of both sexes and all ages. As they grow and reach young adulthood, the way they relate to others changes. It is a time when they as adults should think about how they relate to and show proper respect for peers, how they relate to the children and young adolescents in their lives, and how they relate to their parents and show them affection. For example, when I was a graduate student at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, I visited my parents after I had just finished a course in counseling. During the course I had come to realize that while my world was expanding and new options were opening for me, my father, who was in his sixties, was seeing his world shrink and his options narrow.
與此同時，這些年輕的成年人正學著如何在成人的世界里接受和付出感情。這方面的成長不僅涉及與異性的相處，而且牽涉到與不同性別及年齡的朋友的相處。隨著他們長大成人，他們與別人交往的方式也在改變。這時候作為成年人，他們應該思考如何與同齡人相處以及表示適當的尊重；如何在自己的生活中與孩子、青少年交往以及如何與父母交流并表達自己對父母的愛。例如，我在西南浸會神學院讀研究生時，曾在完成一門咨詢課程后就去探望我的父母。在學習該課程的過程中我漸漸意識到，當我的世界不斷擴展、新的選擇不斷出現時，我的父親，一個年過花甲之人，正在目睹自己的世界在縮小，選擇也在減少。
