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Such child behavior problems are symptomatic of our times. Our trouble is that we always seem to go to extremes. Parents are either too permissive or too pushy. Healthy child rearing demands a middle ground. Certainly we need to make demands on our children. But they have to be tailored to the child's interests and abilities. We put our children at risk for short-term stress disorders and long-term personality problems when we ignore their individuality and impose our own priorities "for their own good."
此類孩子的行為問題是我們時代的反應。我們的問題在于我們似乎總是走極端。父母不是太寬容放任就是太執意強求。健康的兒童養育需要一種中間立場。我們無疑需要對我們的孩子提出要求。但這些要求應適應孩子的興趣和能力。當我們無視他們的個性，“為了他們好”而把我們自己最為關注的東西強加于他們時，我們就把我們的孩子置于短期的緊張病和長期的個性問題的危險中了。
I believe that we need to abandon the false notions that we can create exceptional children by early instruction, and that such children are symbols of our competence as parents. And I believe we should be as concerned with character as with success. If we have reared a well-mannered, good, and decent person, we should take pleasure and pride in that fact. More likely than not, if we have achieved those goals, the child's success will take care of itself. Each child has a unique pattern of qualities and abilities that makes him or her special. In this sense, every single child is a super kid.
我認為我們應該放棄這樣錯誤的觀念，即我們可以通過早期教育培養出出眾的孩子，這樣的孩子是我們作為父母稱職的標志。我還認為，我們應該像關心成功一樣關心性格。如果我們培養出一個彬彬有禮、心地善良、作風正派的人，我們就應該為此感到高興和自豪。如果我們達到了這些目標，那么孩子的成功很可能就會水到渠成。每個孩子都有其獨特的品質和能力，使其與眾不同。從這個意義上說，每一個孩子都是超級孩子。
