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It's for your own good. Cut these things out of your day and you'll see gains in productivity--not to mention happiness.
把這些事情從你的生活中去除掉，你的效率將會有顯著的提高，幸福感也會大大提升。這么做都是為了你自己好。
If you get decent value from making to-do lists, you'll get huge returns--in productivity, in improved relationships, and in your personal well-being--from adding these items to your not to-do list.
如果你從任務(wù)清單中可以獲得巨大的回報，比如提高辦事效率、改善人際關(guān)系、提高生活質(zhì)量等，那么把以下事情列入你的“拒絕清單”中也會有這樣的效果。
Every day, make the commitment not to:
每天，確保不要做以下這些事情：
1. Check my phone while I'm talking to someone.
1. 與人談話的過程中查看自己的手機(jī)。
You've done it. You've played the"Is that your phone? Oh, it must be mine," game. You've tried the you-think-sly-but-actually-really-obvious downwards glance. You've done the, "Wait, let me answer this text..." thing.Maybe you didn't even say, "Wait." You just stopped talking, stopped paying attention, and did it.
你肯定做過這個事情。你肯定玩過這樣的把戲，“是你的手機(jī)在振嗎？哦，原來是我的。”你肯定做過試著用自己認(rèn)為很隱密的方式向下一瞥查看手機(jī)，但其實(shí)卻很明顯。你肯定做過這樣的事情，“稍等下，讓我先回復(fù)這個短信…” 可能你甚至都不說，“稍等。”你就直接停止談話，轉(zhuǎn)移你的注意力到手機(jī)上面去了。
Want to stand out? Want to be that person everyone loves? Stop checking your phone. It doesn't notice when you aren't paying attention. Other people? They notice. And they care.
你想要變得與眾不同嗎？想要人見人愛嗎？那么，在與別人談話時，停止查看你的手機(jī)吧。如果你不看手機(jī)，手機(jī)那頭的人是不會知道的。而正在和你談話的其他人呢？他們會注意到你的一舉一動，而且他們很在意這個。
2. Multitask during a meeting.
2. 在一次會議中處理多個任務(wù)
The easiest way to be the smartest person in the room is to be the person who pays the most attention to the room.
想成為房間里最聰明的人，最簡單的方法就是成為這個房間里最專注的人。
You'll be amazed by what you can learn, both about the topic of the meeting and about the people in the meeting if you stop multitasking and start paying close attention. You'll flush out and understand hidden agendas, you'll spot opportunities to build bridges, and you'll find ways to make yourself indispensable to the people who matter.
如果你在會議中不再一心多用，你就會變得更加專注，也就會注意到很多平時覺察不出來的東西，比如會議中的議題，與會的人員等。你可以從中了解到一些隱藏的議程，也能有機(jī)會去和別人建立聯(lián)系，然后找到合適的方法讓自己變得不可或缺。
3. Think about people who don't make any difference in my life.
3. 為那些與你的生活沒有任何關(guān)系的人而分神。
Trust me: The inhabitants of planet Kardashian are okay without you.
相信我：沒有你的關(guān)注，卡黛珊們照樣過得很好。
But your family, your friends, your employees--all the people that really matter to you--are not. Give them your time and attention.They're the ones who deserve it.
但是對于你的家人、朋友、員工以及那些和你的生活密切相關(guān)的人來說，他們需要你的關(guān)注。請多陪伴他們，多關(guān)注他們。他們值得你這么做。
4. Use multiple notifications.
4. 多個事件通知
You don't need to know the instant you get an email. Or a text.Or a tweet. Or anything else that pops up on your phone or computer.
你沒有必要知道你是不是收到了一封郵件或一個短信，還是一條推特消息，甚至是任何出現(xiàn)在你手機(jī)里和電腦上的消息。
If something is important enough for you to do, it's important enough for you to do without interruptions. Focus totally on what you're doing. Then, on a schedule you set--instead of a schedule you let everyone else set.
如果真的是要緊的事情需要你去做，即使沒有提醒功能來告訴你，你也會去做。完全專注于你正在做的事情。然后按照你自己設(shè)定的計劃來做，而不是照著別人的計劃行動。
5. Let the past dictate the future.
5. 讓過去決定未來
Mistakes are valuable. Learn from them.Then let them go.
錯誤都是很寶貴的。從錯誤中總結(jié)，不要執(zhí)著于過去犯下的錯誤。
Easier said than done? It all depends on your perspective. When something goes wrong, turn it into an opportunity to learn something you didn't know--especially about yourself. When something goes wrong for someone else, turn it into an opportunity to be gracious, forgiving, and understanding.
說起來容易做起來難？這完全取決于你的態(tài)度。如果你犯了錯，把錯誤當(dāng)成是學(xué)習(xí)的機(jī)會，尤其是利用犯錯來更多地認(rèn)識自己。如果是別人犯了錯，把錯誤轉(zhuǎn)變成一個體現(xiàn)你和藹、寬容、理解他人的機(jī)會。
The past is just training. The past should definitely inform but in no way define you--unless you let it.
過去僅僅只是訓(xùn)練。過去會顯示出你不足的一面，卻不能以任何方式來界定你——除非你讓它這么做。
6. Wait until I'm sure I will succeed.
6. 等待成功
You can never feel sure you will succeed at something new, but you can always feel sure you are committed to giving something your best. And you can always feel sure you will try again if you fail. Stop waiting.
對于一些新生事物，你無法保證自己一定能獲得成功，但是你卻可以知道自己有沒有盡最大的努力。你能確保自己在失敗后繼續(xù)嘗試。所以，停止等待吧。
7. Talk behind someone's back.
7. 在背后說人是非
If you've talked to more than one person about something Joe is doing, wouldn't everyone be better off if you stepped up and actually talked to Joe about it? And if it's "not your place" to talk to Joe, it's probably not your place to talk about Joe.
你對不止一個人談?wù)撽P(guān)于喬正在做的一些事情，但如果你親自去跟喬說起這些，不是更好嗎？如果你沒有權(quán)利去和喬討論，那么你就沒有資格去談?wù)搯獭?/div>
Spend your time on productive conversations. You'll get a lot more done--and you'll gain a lot more respect.
把你的時間花在更有成效的對話中去。你將會完成得更多，并且獲得更多的尊敬。
8. Say "yes" when I really mean "no."
8. 口是心非，不會拒絕
Refusing a request from colleagues, customers, or even friends is really hard. But rarely does saying no go as badly as you expect. Most people will understand, and if they don't, should you care too much about what they think?
拒絕一個來自同事，顧客，甚至是朋友的請求，真的很難。但是偶爾拒絕也并不會像你想象中那么壞。大多數(shù)人會理解的，而且如果他們不理解的話，你也沒有必要去太多關(guān)注別人的想法，不是嗎？
When you say no, at least you'll only feel bad for a few moments. When you say yes to something you really don't want to do you might feel bad for a long time--or at least as long as it takes you to do what you didn't want to do in the first place.
當(dāng)你拒絕別人的時候，你只會難過一會。而當(dāng)你接受了別人的請求，但事實(shí)上這件事你確實(shí)不想做，你就會難過很久，至少從你一開始不想接受到做完那件事的這段時期，你都會感到難受。
