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Domineering parents may keep kids under their thumb to try to protect the kids from the perils of peer pressure.
專橫的父母們可能會像將孩子們捧在手心里那樣照顧免他們受來自同輩的壓力。
But this approach may backfire and actually make kids more susceptible to going with the crowd.
但實際上這種方法可能完全適得其反,孩子們會更易受到別人影響。
So finds a study in the journal Child Development.
這是根據在《兒童發展》雜志上的研究所得出的結論。
Psychologists got baseline information through interviews with 184 13-year-olds.
通過對184位13歲的人進行采訪心理學家們掌握到了基礎信息。
The researchers learned about their parents’ control tactics such as using guilt to manipulate behavior
研究人員對于他們父母使用諸如內疚操控行為的控制措施進行了研究，
and watched how the kids dealt with a difference of opinion or argument with a friend.
而后觀察孩子們如何應對一位朋友的不同意見或爭論。
Years passed. Then the researchers followed up with the study participants when they were 18 and again when they reached 21.
而幾年后。研究人員又在這些參與者18歲，21歲的時候進行跟蹤調查。
Of particular interest were interactions with a peer or romantic partner.
比如對同齡人或情人的特別興趣。
The now young adults who’d had highly controlling parents were less able to stress their own viewpoints to a friend or partner in confident and productive ways.
現在受到父母高度控制的年輕人不能向朋友或合作伙伴自信且及富有成效地強調自己的觀點。
And the effects of that inability increased over time:
而且這種缺乏能力的影響會隨著時間增加:
poor relationship skills in an 18-year-old predicted further deficits at 21.
比如18歲時與人的糟糕關系技能預測在21歲時會進一步惡化。
Seems that resisting parental control may be how kids learn to assert themselves, an important skill for healthy future relationships.
似乎抵制家長控制就可使得孩子們堅持己見,這可是對于健康未來關系不可或缺的一項重要技能。
