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This research showing how a single sentence very often can impact an entire life. This is work done by Bandura.
這個研究表明一句話如何影響一生，這是班杜拉做的研究
Single sentence of appreciation can give us strength to go on.
一句感激之言就能讓我們有力量支撐下去
Now the key here: it has to be genuine appreciation. One of the things we'll talk about
但這有一個關鍵:感激一定要出自真心誠意
when we discuss self-esteem is how destructive and harmful ingenuine appreciation is.
等我們談到自尊時，我們會談到虛假的感激會帶來多大的傷害
And now I am not talking about your boyfriend or girlfriend ask you "so how do I look" having just come out,
我不是說你們的男朋友或女朋友穿著同一身衣服出去玩了一晚
you know come back from a day and worn something the whole night. You are not going to tell them "well, actually awful".
第二天回來問你"我好看嗎?"你當然不能說"很難看"
So OK. We are not talking about these grey areas. But it has to be real.
我們說的不是這種灰色地帶。感激一定要真誠
It has to be connected to reality. We'll talk about that much more when we talk about self-esteem.
要跟實際相關。等我們講到自尊時再深入談這點
The key though is that you need to understand there is always something real to appreciate.
但關鍵是你要明白你總能找到可以感激的東西
Think about the study with the cancer patients, or AIDS patients.
想想剛才的癌癥病人研究，或者艾滋病人研究
Even they were able to find something good in a very difficult, tragic scenario, situation.
連他們都能在這么悲慘的境況中，找到值得感激的事
And when they appreciate the good, when they find benefit in that situation, the good appreciates. It grows.
當他們感激時，當他們從壞事中看到好事時，好事就會升值，越變越好
Oprah, a real benefit finder: "What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.
奧普拉是真正的積極者："你專注的東西會變大，當你專注于生活中的好事上，你就能創造出更多好事"
Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life."
"機會，戀情，甚至錢都會向你滾來，當我學會感激，不管我生活中發生了什么事"
Because what we focus on appreciates.
因為我們專注的東西會升值
