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The problem for the men was likely overexertion, but there are ways around that.
男人們在問題可能跟過分努力有關，但也不是沒有解決的辦法。
"Older adults have to realize that it’s intimacy that’s important,"
“年齡較大的成年人必須明白，親密才是關鍵，”
says Dr. Gary Kennedy, director of geriatric psychiatry at Montefiore Medical Center in New York.
紐約Montefiore醫療中心老年精神病學主任Gary Kennedy博士如是說。
"If the focus is on pleasure rather than achieving orgasm each time, it can be fulfilling."
“如果性愛的重點放在找到快樂而不是每次都達到高潮的話，性愛會變得更容易讓人滿足?！?/div>
In this and other dimensions of aging,
在老齡化的這個和其他方面，
Kennedy cites pianist Vladimir Horowitz, who died at age 86 and was still performing into his 80s.
博士舉了鋼琴家弗拉基米爾·霍洛維茨的例子，他活了86歲，80多歲都還有性生活。
Conceding the limitations of age, he left the most demanding pieces out of his performances;
考慮到年齡的限制，他就把性愛最高的要求（高潮）排除在了自己的性愛之外；
of those that remained, he would play the slower ones first,
在剩下的環節，他會先保持較慢的節奏，
making the faster ones seem faster still by comparison.
這樣一對比，當他加快節奏時就會顯得他的節奏很快。
"He would optimize, not maximize," says Kennedy.
“他會擇優而不是最大限度地投入，”肯尼迪說。
There is an admitted bumper-sticker quality to dictum like that,
像這樣的格言都被公認為有種保險杠貼紙的味道，
but compared with the familiar age-related wisdom—take it slow, watch your diet, stay cheerful—it’s bracing.
但跟熟悉的歲月賦予的智慧——也就是慢慢來，注意飲食，保持樂觀——相比，這種格言都少還是會讓人覺得振奮人心。
"There are," Kennedy says, "no truly healthy centenarians;
肯尼迪說，“并沒有真正健康的百歲老人；
you can’t put 100 points on the board without getting worn out and banged up along the way.
不經歷風霜，不留點兒傷疤，是不可能活到100歲的。
But there are independent centenarians and happy centenarians and centenarians who have had a rollicking good ride.
但也不是沒有獨立而快樂，一輩子都活得特別快活的百歲老人。
The same is true for people who will never reach the 100-year mark but make the very most of the time they do get.
對于那些永遠沒有機會垮過百歲大關但卻充分利用了已有生命的每一天的人，情況也是如此。
The end of life is a nonnegotiable thing.
死亡是沒得商量的事情。
The quality and exact length of that life, however, is something we very much have the power to shape.
但我們完全有自己塑造生命的質量和確切長度的能力。
