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I asked what a mentor meant to her.
我問她導師對她來說意味著什么。
She explained that it would be someone she spoke to for at least an hour every week.
她解釋道，導師應該是每周與她談話至少一個小時的人。
I smiled, thinking, That's not a mentor—that's a therapist.
我笑了，心想這可不是導師，而是心理咨詢師。
Few mentors have time for excessive hand-holding.
很少有導師能夠花大量的時間去手把手指導門生，
Most are dealing with their own high-stress jobs.
他們中大多數人都必須應對自己的工作，壓力也很大。
A mentee who is positive and prepared can be a bright spot in a day.
情緒積極、準備充分的被指導者會讓他們眼前一亮。
For this same reason, mentees should avoid complaining excessively to a mentor.
出于同樣的原因，在導師面前，被指導者應該避免過度抱怨。
Using a mentor's time to validate feelings may help psychologically, but it's better to focus on specific problems with real solutions.
占用導師的時間并希望自己的情緒得到認同，也許會在心理調適上有所幫助，但最好還是多關注怎樣切實解決具體問題。
Most people in the position to mentor are quite adept at problem solving.
大多數處于指導地位的人都很擅長解決問題，
Give them a problem to solve.
那就給他們一個需要解決的問題。
Sometimes high-potential women have a difficult time asking for help because they don't want to appear stumped.
有時候，發展潛力很大的女性感覺很難去尋求幫助，因為她們不想讓自己看上去無計可施。
Being unsure about how to proceed is the most natural feeling in the world. I feel that way all the time.
對下一步沒有把握，這是再自然不過的感覺了，這種感覺也一直跟隨著我。
Asking for input is not a sign of weakness but often the first step to finding a path forward.
征求他人的意見并不表示你軟弱，這反倒能夠成為你找到前行道路的第一步。
Mentoring and sponsoring relationships often form between individuals who have common interests or when the junior members remind the more senior members of themselves.
指導與贊助關系也常常出現在擁有共同利益的人之間，或是出現在初級職員讓高層管理者聯想起自己的時候。
This means that men will often gravitate toward sponsoring younger men, with whom they connect more naturally.
這就意味著男性常常傾向于贊助更年輕的男性，因為他們之間會更加自然地發生聯系。
Since there are so many more men at the top of every industry, the proverbial old-boy network continues to flourish.
由于每個行業頂層都有眾多男性，因此“老哥們兒”關系網仍然相當活躍。
