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Cognitive reconstruction is about learning to interpret things optimistically, In other words, in the positive light.
認知重建是要學習樂觀地詮釋事情，換句話說，要積極的肯定值得肯定之處
Ann Harbison, colleague of mine, Ann Harbison used to teach also with Philip Stone, said that "never let a good crisis go to waste".
我同事，以前也和菲利普·斯通一起教書說過“永遠不要浪費一次好的危機”
Crises have the potential through growth.
危機在發展中有潛力
One of the books that we will talk about when we talk about relationships is Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, who talks about crucibles in marriage.
我們將談到的其中一本書《熱情婚姻》是關于婚姻關系的，作者大衛·史納屈談論婚姻中的考驗
And what he says is that ...the thriving relationships, a relationships, not that have been, you know, all fine and dandy for years.
他說，成功的婚姻，婚姻關系不是一直和睦融洽的
These usually fail after a while.
往往會有爭吵
But the relationships that go through crucibles, that have crises, disagreements
而是經歷過磨難有過危機，有過分歧的婚姻關系
and then, you know, Thesis and Antithesis and then there is a Synthesis, and there is a growth as a result of these hardships.
就像黑格爾的否定之否定規律往往會因為經歷過這些困難而獲得更好的發展
And he says that there is no other way, again learn to fail or fail to learn, there is no other way for a long-term success of a relationship.
他說沒有其他辦法學習失敗或在失敗中學習，維持長期的關系必須靠這個方法
Relationship does not, cannot look like this.
關系看起來不像這樣
It has to have these ups and downs.
它必須有起有落
Never let a good crisis in a relationship go to waste.
從不錯失關系中的一個好危機
That doesn't mean that every crisis needs to be resolved and there are some that could end, and should end a relationship.
不是說每個危機都要解決有些關系可以結束，也應該結束
But most crises can be solved and need to be dealt with.
但多數危機能被解決，需要處理好
