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Controlling Your Emotional Energy
控制好你的情緒
Have you ever noticed that when you are focused on something that is exciting, you can get by with less sleep and feel great? At the same time, have you noticed that when you are discouraged and depressed, you feel worn out and can sleep forever?
你有沒有留心過這種情況——當你集中精力于一件激動人心的事時，一天都不需要怎么睡覺也會感覺神清氣爽？同時，你有沒有注意過下面這種情況呢：當你情緒低落或很沮喪的時候，你會感覺非常疲憊，可以睡上一整天？
It’s real simple. When you think about positive things, your energy levels rise and your attitude improves. When you think about negative things, your energy levels drop and your attitude deteriorates.
其實很簡單——當你想一些正面的東西時，你的能量級會上升，你的心態也會改善；而當你腦中充斥著消極的事情時，你的能量級就下降，你的心態也會變糟。
As if your energy levels and attitude aren’t enough of a reason to focus on positive things, there are many other benefits including being happier, experiencing less stress and anxiety, enjoying greater success, being more enjoyable to be around and living a longer, healthier life.
因為如果你能力級和心態的改變還不足以說服你往好的方面想，那么這些好處應該夠了吧——往積極方面想會讓你變得更開心，能幫你減輕壓力和焦慮，讓你更有成就感，更愉快的人際關系以及更健康長壽。
While there will be times when bad things happen and controlling our emotions will be difficult, 99% of the negative things we experience on a daily basis are trivial and not worth the emotional drain that we allow ourselves to feel.
然而，事情并不會總盡如人意，而當不如意之事發生時想要控制情緒可就沒那么簡單了。我們每天經歷的負面事情中有99%都是雞毛蒜皮的小事，并沒必要大發雷霆，大動干戈。
As an example, how do you feel…
例如，你會怎么看待下面這些情況呢？
When you open the refrigerator door and something falls out and dumps all over the ground?
你打開冰箱時里面的東西掉出來灑了一地你會怎么辦？
When you call a company with a problem and none of their voicemail options address your problem and you can’t get to an operator?
你向某公司投訴，他們的語音提示沒有一條能幫上忙而你又無法接通話務員時，你怎么辦？
When a car behind you gets right up on your butt?
你后面的車開得離你很近時，你怎么想？
When the child sitting at the table next to you won’t stop whining?
你鄰桌的孩子不停在吵鬧時，你怎么辦？
When animals get into your trash and spread it all over the floor?
你的寵物鉆到垃圾桶里然后弄得滿地都是垃圾時，你怎么辦？
When someone does not respond to your important email or text?
別人不回你重要的郵件或短信時，你有什么感覺？
When the airport security line is 45 minutes long?
在機場過安檢要排隊45分鐘時，你怎么辦？
When the car in front of you suddenly puts on the brakes to turn and never uses its turn signal?
你前面的車突然減速而且沒有打轉向燈就轉彎時，你有什么感覺？
When the shopper in front of you is laughing and talking to the store clerk and no one seems to care that you are waiting?
購物付款排隊時你前面的人和收銀員談笑風生，無視你的存在時，你會是什么心情？
When people throw trash out their car window?
人們往車窗外亂扔垃圾時，你怎么想？
When someone cuts you off while you are driving.
開車時被別人超車時，你什么心情？
When your food is delivered to your table cold and your waiter is nowhere to be found?
給你上的是冷菜，而又找不到給你上菜的人時，你心情會怎樣？
When you notice a small tear in the new shirt you just purchased?
你發現新買的襯衣上有一個小洞時，你會是什么心情？
When people talk obnoxiously loud on their cell phone in public places?
公共場所有人旁若無人大聲打電話時，你心情會怎樣？
When you see parents screaming at their kids?
你看到父母向孩子大喊大叫時，你是什么心情？
Do I need to go on?
我還要往下說嗎？
It’s inevitable. These types of things happen. When they do, we have a choice to make. We can either shrug them off or we can focus on them.
這些事情難免會發生。遇到這種情況時，我們是并非無計可施——可以選擇無視，也可選擇關注。
If you want to start taking control of your emotions, here are my top three tips.
如果你現在想開始控制自己的情緒，下面我給你推薦三大技巧。
1. Be aware of your emotions. For most of my life I would allow these types of things to aggravate me, and it all happened at the subconscious level. Now I am keenly aware of all the little things that impact my emotions throughout the day, and by being aware of them and understanding them, I am beginning to successfully control my emotional energy.
1.留意你的情緒。在生活中，大部分時間我都會盡量避免上面那些事發生在我身上，但它們總是讓人措不及防。現在我強烈意識到了每天都是哪些雞毛蒜皮小事在影響我，而且通過留意和理解這些事，我開始能夠有效控制情緒能量。
2. Take control of how you respond. When things happen that frustrate or aggravate you, remind yourself that you, and you alone, are in control of your emotions. You can choose to allow what’s happened to negatively impact you or you can choose not to.
2.控制好你處理這些事情得方式。當遇到讓人沮喪或惱怒的情況，不要忘了只有你自己才是你情緒的主導。你可以選擇聽之任之讓負面影響在你身上蔓延，也可以反其道而行之。
When something starts to raise my blood pressure, I remind myself that how I feel is my choice. While these types of things still affect me, the intensity of my reaction is far less severe. I find that within 15 seconds I can usually shrug off the things that use to aggravate me. Often, I will say to myself, “Don’t let this upset you. What’s the right solution?” If the solution is just cleaning up the glass of juice I just spilled on the floor, then I just clean it up without any negative self-talk.
每當遇到讓人火冒三丈的事情，我就會提醒自己：你是自己情緒的主導。而當我還是無法擺脫這些事的影響時，我的反應已經遠遠沒有那么強烈了。我發現現在我只需要十五秒就能擺脫以前那些讓我受到百般折磨的事。我常對自己說：“不要為這種事心煩，什么是合適的解決方法？”如果解決方法只是要清理掉剛剛灑在地上的果汁，我會毫無怨言地照做。
3. Change what you think about. One of the most important things to remember as you go through life is, where your attention goes, so goes your emotional energy. If I’m behind a car going 10 MPH under the speed limit, I will say, “Todd there is nothing you can do to change the driver in front of you, so back off, relax, take a deep breathe and wait patiently.” I will then immediately change my thoughts to something productive like a call I need to make or a project that needs my attention.
3.改變你的想法。生活中最重要的事情之一就是要記住：你關注什么，你的情緒能量就會受到什么影響。當我前面的車被限速10英里/時，我會對自己說：“你沒法讓前面的車加速，所以，倒車吧。放松，深呼吸，耐心等待。”然后我會馬上想到一些實際的事情，比如說，我有一個電話要打，或者有一項工程需要留心。
The next time you start to get frustrated about your co-worker who has a bad attitude, be grateful that it is not you that has the bad attitude and then, turn your attention to something more useful.
下次你再因為同事態度差而感到不爽，你要慶幸態度差的不是你，然后轉移注意力，做一些更有用的東西。
I realize I just touched the tip of the iceberg on this important subject. What types of things have worked for you in controlling your attitude and emotional energy? Please share your insights in the comments section below this post.Often times it’s the small trivial things that we can’t do anything about that kills our attitude and zaps our emotional energy. Take control of how you feel, by taking control of what you think about..
我知道對這個重要的話題，上面提到的只是冰山一角。在控制心態和情緒能量的時候，哪些方法對你有用呢？請在文章后面的評論框留言。我們經常對一些雞毛蒜皮的小事無能為力，就是這些事情讓我的心態和情緒能量一團糟。改變想法，你就能控制好你的情緒...
