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Chapter 4
第四章
He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Having Sex with You
如果他不跟你做愛，他就沒那么喜歡你
When Men Like You, They Want to Touch You, Always
如果男人喜歡你，他們會想觸碰你，一直如此
Ladies, you are going to meet, and have already met, many, many men in the years that constitute your dating lifespan.
女士們，你們將遇見或者已經遇見了許許多多構成你約會人生的男人們。
And I hate to tell you this, but some of these men will simply not be attracted to you.
我很不想告訴你們，他們中的某些人就是不被你吸引。
I know you're hot, but that's just the way it is. (Even Cindy Crawford has dudes that go, "I don't know what the big deal is all about." )
我知道你很性感，但是事實如此。（哪怕是辛迪·克勞馥也會有對她不屑一顧的男人。）
And every single one of these men that are not attracted to you will never ever tell you that.
任何一個不被你吸引的男人都絕不會告訴你這一點。
Oh, the things they'll say...they're scared, hurt, tired, injured, sick, scared (again) .
他們會說他們害怕、痛苦、疲憊、受傷、病了，還有害怕（再次）。
But the truth is simple, brutal, and clear as a bell: He's not attracted to you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
事實很簡單、殘酷并且十分清楚：你對他沒有吸引力，他不想傷害你的感情。
If he were into you, he would be having a hard time keeping his paws off you.
如果他喜歡你，那他很難把自己的爪子從你身上拿開。
Oh the simplicity of it all! If a man is not trying to undress you, he's not into you.
如此顯而易見！如果一個男人不想扒光你，那他就不喜歡你。
The "He's Afraid to Get Hurt Again" Excuse
“他害怕再一次受傷”的借口
Dear Greg,
親愛的格雷格，
I had a boyfriend ten years ago.
我十年前有一個男朋友。
I bumped into him on the street recently, after not having seen him for many years, and we start "dating" again, even though it is unclear if that's exactly what's going on.
最近我在街上碰到了他，這么多年沒見面之后，我們開始重新“約會”，盡管并沒有拿到明面上來。
He won't kiss me or make a pass at me.
他不會吻我，也不會對我求愛。
But, Greg, we're going salsa dancing, we're going bar hopping, we're staying out late, talking and dancing and laughing and flirting.
但是格雷格，我們一起去跳薩爾薩舞，泡吧，一起呆到很晚，聊天、跳舞、歡笑和調情。
He keeps telling me how great I look, how great it is to see me.
他一直告訴我我看起來有多美，見到我有多棒。
One night he even told me he loved me and hoped I'd always be in his life.
有一天晚上他告訴我他愛我，并且希望我能一輩子陪著他。
My friends all say he's just afraid to get hurt again and I should stick this one out.
我的朋友們都說他只是太害怕再受傷害，我應該抓住他不放。
He's a great guy. Doesn't he seem really into me, but he's scared?
他是個很棒的男人。莫非他是真愛我，但是害怕了？
Salsa dancing, Greg, till four in the morning.
我們跳薩爾薩舞直到早上4點呢，格雷格。
Salsa dancing. Please advise.
薩爾薩舞。請給我建議。
Signed Nicole
尼科爾
