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Dear Annie:
親愛(ài)的安妮：
My son, Quentin, has always had a problem telling the truth. It started in kindergarten and became worse over time. He's a grown man now and will lie about anything from what he was doing an hour ago to whether he lost his job.
我的兒子昆汀一直有個(gè)毛病，就是總是撒謊。幼兒園的時(shí)候他就開(kāi)始撒謊，隨著時(shí)間的推移，這個(gè)毛病越來(lái)越嚴(yán)重了。他現(xiàn)在是一個(gè)成年人了。但是，從他一個(gè)小時(shí)前在做什么到他是否失去了工作如此種種，他都要撒謊。
Quentin's wife lies just as much as he does. Neither of them can keep a job and now they have a child together and another on the way.
昆汀的妻子和他一樣喜歡撒謊。他們兩個(gè)都沒(méi)有穩(wěn)定的工作，現(xiàn)在他們有了一個(gè)孩子，另一個(gè)孩子也即將出生。
How can I help Quentin see what he is doing to himself and his family? How do I get him to stop lying? I took him to counseling when he was a child, but the therapist simply said Quentin had an active imagination and would grow out of it.
我怎樣才能幫助昆廷，讓他看看他對(duì)自己和家人都做了什么？我如何讓他停止說(shuō)謊？他還是個(gè)孩子的時(shí)候，我?guī)プ鲂睦碜稍儯委煄熤皇呛?jiǎn)單地說(shuō)昆汀想象力很活躍，等長(zhǎng)大了就不會(huì)這樣了。
I can't afford therapy and am uncomfortable discussing this with my pastor. What is a worried mother to do? － Worried Mom
我沒(méi)錢給昆汀做治療，我也不想和我的牧師談?wù)撨@個(gè)令人不悅的事。我這個(gè)憂心忡忡的母親該怎么做呢？ ——一個(gè)憂心的媽媽
Dear Mom:
親愛(ài)的媽媽：
Quentin must recognize the negative impact of his lies and want to stop. Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to be the case, which means nothing you do is likely to make a difference in his behavior, especially since his wife will undercut your efforts. Right now, the only person who will benefit from counseling is you. You could try contacting the American Association of Pastoral Counselors or the American Counseling Association.
昆廷必須意識(shí)到他這種行為的負(fù)面影響，并停止說(shuō)謊。不幸的是，情況并不如此，這意味著你所做的一切并沒(méi)有對(duì)他產(chǎn)生任何作用，特別是他妻子的所作所為也削弱你的努力。眼下，唯一需要做心理咨詢的人就是你了。你可以嘗試聯(lián)系一下美國(guó)教牧咨詢專家協(xié)會(huì)或美國(guó)輔導(dǎo)學(xué)會(huì)。
