You like to think of yourself as a good friend, but are you really? If you’re not sure, it’s time to think about what makes a true pal.
你認為自己是別人的好友，你真的是嗎？如果你不確定，是時候想想什么能使你成為他人的知心好友。

Step 1: Be willing to listen
Always be willing to listen to what the other person is telling you, even if sometimes it’s boring or makes you uncomfortable.
第一步：愿意傾聽
總是愿意傾聽別人告訴你的事，即使有時候內容很乏味或是令你很不舒服。

Step 2: Don’t be judgmental
Don’t be judgmental. Try to see your friend’s point of view. If you’re going to disagree, do it respectfully.
第二步：不要過于傾向自己的判斷。
不要過于傾向自己的判斷。試著去理解朋友的觀點。如果你不同意他的觀點，一定要委婉些。

Tip:Don’t give advice without being asked, or first asking if your friend would like your counsel. Sometimes people just want to vent.
建議：如果朋友沒有讓你提意見不要發表意見，或是先問問你的鵬喲是否想聽聽意見。有時候人們只是想發泄。

Step 3: Speak up
That said, if your friend is doing something that is hurting her or someone else, you must speak up. Forcefully.
第三步：毫無顧慮地說出
也就是說，如果你的朋友做了傷害別人的事，你一定要毫無顧慮地指出來。要有說服力。

Step 4: Don’t interrupt
Don’t interrupt your friend. Cutting someone off shows that you are more interested in what you want to say than what they are telling you.
第四步：不要打斷朋友的話。
不要打斷別人的話。插話會表明你相對于別人說的話，你更對自己所說的感興趣。

Step 5: Be there when they need help
Be there when they need help. Nothing ends a friendship faster than abandoning a friend in her time of need.
第五步：當朋友需要幫助時要幫忙
當朋友需要幫助時要幫忙。如果朋友需要幫忙時，你卻不理睬，友誼很很快結束。

Step 6: Be thoughtful
Be thoughtful. If you’re shopping and see a small item a buddy would like, buy it. Send cards just to let your friends know you value them.
第六步：要體貼
要體貼。如果你在購物，看到一個好朋友喜歡的小飾品，買下來。給朋友發祝福卡片讓他們知道你珍視友誼。

Step 7: Don’t take your friends for granted
Don’t take your friends for granted. If you hear yourself thinking, “She’s my friend; she won’t mind,” stop and reconsider. It is precisely because she’s your friend that you shouldn’t take advantage of her.
第七步：不要把你的朋友想當然
不要把你的朋友想當然。如果你察覺自己正在想“她是我的朋友，她不會介意”。停下來再重新思考。正因為她是你的朋友，你才不應該利用她。