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1. Self-awareness
1. 保持清醒
Complaining can be contagious, so if you find yourself falling into the same mental habits as the malcontents around you, stop yourself. When a negative thought pops into your mind, immediately revise it. Instead of telling yourself, "That's a nice shirt, but I can't afford it," change the message to, "That will look great with my black pants when I can afford it". By doing this, you're fostering the process of neurogenesis -- creating and reinforcing pathways in your brain that lead to positive behaviors.
抱怨是會傳染的。當你和別人一樣喜歡抱怨時，立刻停下來。當腦海中冒出消極想法時，立即矯正它。 如果說：“那件襯衫真好看，但是我買不起”，你可以這樣告訴自己：“當我買得起這件襯衫時，它和我的黑褲子會很搭”。通過這種方法促進神經的生成——在大腦中建立和加強積極思維的路徑。
Of course, everyone complains sometimes: Your favorite team loses. Your computer crashes. Deadlines pile up. It's human to vent now and then. But the less frequently you complain, the more time will pass between lapses into negativity. This is how rewiring the brain works.
當然，每個人都有抱怨的時候：鐘愛的球隊輸了，電腦崩潰了，一堆工作沒有完成。偶爾發泄是人之本性。但抱怨的頻率越少，你陷入消極的概率也會越小。這是使大腦思維不斷更新的方式。
2. Distance yourself
2. 遠離是非
Whenever possible escape from negative conversations. Excuse yourself and go somewhere quiet, ideally somewhere outdoors in the fresh air. Think of something pleasant before returning. You have to take this seriously, because negative people can and will pull you into the quicksand.
無論何時，盡可能不參與消極對話。找個借口遠離是非，去到一個安靜的地方，最好是有新鮮空氣的戶外。在重新投入工作之前想些美好的事物。你必須要認真對待抱怨這件事，因為別人的抱怨也會讓你變得消極。
3. Don't try to [w]convert[/w] complainers
3. 不要試圖改變抱怨的人
If you find yourself trapped in a toxic group of complainers in a meeting or at a social event, simply choose silence. Let their words bounce off you while you think of something else.
當你在聚會或者社交場合中，周圍都是愛抱怨的人時，最好保持沉默。為了不受他們影響，你可以想些別的事來分散注意力。
Attempting to stop the griping may just alienate the group and make you a target, but you can redirect the discussion in your own mind.If someone says:"I hate Mondays, weekends are too short," try countering that by thinking, "I'm glad I rested up over the weekend, so I'm ready to make some headway on that big project"-- or whatever positive thoughts you can conjure up to keep you from getting mentally mired in]mired in someone else's whining.
如果要阻止別人抱怨，也許會令你成為眾矢之的。但你可以在腦海中轉換話題的思考方式。如果有人說：“我討厭星期一，周末真是太短了”，你可以嘗試在腦海中反駁：“我很開心，因為我周末休息得很好，現在我已經準備好投入到那個大項目了”，或者用任何積極的想法使自己不受他人抱怨影響。
4. Transfer responsibility
4. 轉移責任
On occasions when you're pressed against the wall while someone is ranting, throw the responsibility back at them by calmly asking, "So what do you intend to do about it?" In most cases, complainers don't really want a solution, nor are they looking for sympathy. They just want to vent, and this tactic will stop them in their tracks.
當你承受巨大壓力，有人卻不斷嘮叨時，你可以心平氣和地問他：“那你打算怎么做呢”，從而把責任扔回給對方。大多時候，抱怨的人并不是真正要尋找解決問題的出路，或者尋求同情。他們僅僅是想通過發泄來找個出口。
