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Do you have a hard time saying no to others? Do you say “yes” when you really mean no?You’re not alone. Many people end up saying “yes” to something they don’t really want to do for several reasons.
你是不是感覺拒絕他人是件很困難的事？你是不是明明心里不樂意嘴上卻說"沒問題"？有這樣煩惱的不止你一人，面對很多不情愿做的事情，許多人還是由于某些原因最終選擇了接受。
When everyone else says yes and you say no, you fear that you will be alienated from the group. Therefore, fear of loss creeps in and you find yourself saying yes. Start to give yourself and others morecredit. It is extremely unlikely for people to no longer want to be around you just because you have said no a few times. It is all down to how you say “no.”
當周圍每個人都接受而你卻拒絕的話，你感覺自己會被人群疏遠。因此，害怕失去的感覺漸漸潛入內(nèi)心，你發(fā)覺自己最后也接受了。給自己也給他人多點信任吧！就因為你拒絕了幾次，周圍的人就不再和你交往了？絕對不可能！那么我們來學習如何說不吧！
1. “I’m sorry, I just don’t have the time at the moment.”
不好意思，現(xiàn)在我真沒時間
If you are too busy then let the other person know. After all, your own work and family comes first. The other person will understand, especially if they also have a busy job and a family of their own.
如果你太忙那就讓別人知道這點。畢竟你自己的工作和家庭才是最重要的。別人會感同身受，尤其是他們本身工作忙還有家庭。
You may find it easier to givespecifics. You can expand upon your answer, sharing the details as to why you don’t have time.
你會發(fā)現(xiàn)給出細節(jié)理由變得更簡單了。接下來再詳細解釋下自己的回答，讓他人知道你沒有時間的具體緣由。
2. “I don’t think I’m the best person to help you out. Why don’t you try …”
我認為我不是幫你解決難題的最佳人選，你可以找......"
If you think you can’t be of any help then simply say so. Maybe you know someone else who would be better suited for the task. Recommend that person instead. This is a good one to use at work.
當你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己根本不可能幫上什么忙時，直接拒絕。也許你認識的某個人更適合解決這個難題，將這個人推薦給求助者，這個辦法在工作中非常適用。
3. “Let me get back to you.”
一會回復你
Sometimes you first have to check yourschedulebefore you can commit to something. But remember, it’s not a good idea to say this when you really mean no in the first place. This will waste the other person’s time; time which could have been spent finding someone else who would say yes.
有時候你不得不先看看自己的日程才敢承諾于他人。但請記住。如果你心里根本不樂意幫忙，這個方法并不太適用。這樣會浪費求助者的時間，有這個時間或許就可以讓他找到另一個樂意幫忙的人了。
4. “I’m sorry but now is not a good time. How about some other time?”
不好意思，現(xiàn)在有些不方便。要不找個另外的時間吧？
They say that timing is everything; sometimes you might be asked to do something when you are in the middle of something. Don’t hesitate to say that you are busy right now but you can help at a later date.
人們都說時機決定一切，有時候你在處理某事的關鍵時刻卻遇到有人找你幫忙，果斷告訴他自己現(xiàn)在非常忙，過些天會幫他搞定。
However, you must never offer to do something in the future if you don’t mean it. This will turn out to be much worse than simply saying no in the first place.
但如果你心里根本不想做這事，日后你肯定不會幫他的。所以為避免更糟糕的后果，還不如事先就直接拒絕他。
5. “I would rather decline than do a mediocre job”
我寧愿拒絕也不想敷衍了事
When you know that you won’t be able to do the best job you can, simply say so. The other person willappreciateyour honesty. You could even follow it up with, “I’d rather say no now than I’m sorry later,” for extraeffect.
當你知道自己沒能力勝任某項工作時，就干脆這樣回答，對方會欣賞你的坦誠。為了有更好的效果，你還可以這樣補充：“我寧愿現(xiàn)在拒絕也不希望之后有負于你”。
6. “I’d love to but…”
我很樂意，但是......
This is usually a gentle way of saying no to someone. Saying that you would love to do something shows that you like the other person’s idea but you just can’t do it.
這通常是一種非常紳士的拒絕他人的方式。告訴他人自己很樂意做，表示自己贊同他人的想法，但確實沒法幫忙。
7. “No”
不行
This is the simplest and most direct way. Simply say “no.” There is no need to add any details unless asked for. We spend so much time thinking of good, elaborate excuses when being direct is often the simplest and best way.
這是最簡單最直接的拒絕方式，就簡單地回答對方“不行”。不需要給任何細節(jié)解釋，除非對方問你。我們花了大量的時間去斟酌一些精心詳盡的理由，然而直接一點才是最簡單最好的方式。
