3. Talk about your passions
談談讓你充滿激情的話題
Have you ever noticed that when you talk about something you are passionate about, time seems to flow? You are able to talk for hours without any awkward silences.
你有沒有注意到當你談論那些讓你充滿激情的話題時,時間似乎一晃就過去了。你可以說上好幾個小時而且還不會出現窘人 的沉悶。
If you find a conversation stalling, direct the conversation towards something you would have no trouble talking about; your passions.
如果你發現談話開始變得尷尬,那么把對話引導到你覺得談起來毫不費力的話題上:那些讓你充滿激情的事物。
4. Just say it
說出來
Sometimes you have no problem thinking up things to say. The problem is that you fear the other person won't enjoy the subject you have in mind. This fear is usually unfounded. Next time you find yourself stuck in conversation, just say what is on your mind. You might just be pleasantly surprised.
有時想到說什么話并不是難事。但問題是你擔心別人對你的這個話題不感興趣。這種擔心通常是多余的。下次當你覺得自己陷入了談話困境,說出你腦中想到的就好了。你也許會大吃一驚!
5. Practice
練習
Now you know of some tips to keep a conversation going, it is time to put them into practice. No matter what your skill level, you can only become better by practicing.
現在你知道了一些讓對話繼續的技巧,那么是時候把它們應用到實際中去了。不論你的水平如何,你只有不斷地練習才能變得更好。
If you still lack confidence in your conversational skills, start off by talking to your family and friends. When you feel a little more confident, get out of your comfort zone. Start to talk to co-workers or complete strangers. Soon enough, you will be able to master the art of conversation.
如果你對自己的談話技巧缺乏信心,那么從與家人交談和與朋友交談開始。當你有了一點信心以后,然后離開你的舒適區域。開始和同事或完全陌生的人交談。很快你就能掌握談話的藝術。
Remember that sometimes the person you are talking with doesn't want to be sociable. They might be lost in their thoughts, be having a bad day or simply don't want to contribute to the conversation. Even the very best conversationalists would have trouble keeping a conversation going. In this scenario, it is best to politely excuse yourself and find someone else to talk to.
記住,有時和你談話的人并不擅長社交。他們可能陷在自己的想法中,或者遇到了不好的事,又或者只是不想交談而已。即使是最健談的人也會遇到談話不能繼續的情形。在這種情形下,最好的做法是為自己找一個委婉的理由離開,然后找另一個人談話。