Advise with advice

Remember that the goal of constructive criticism isn’t to make the person feel terrible; it’s to help them grow. Instead of directly accusing the person, try to get the message through to them in the form of light-hearted advice. Phrases like, “Next time you might want to ? or “I find it helpful to ? can take away the blame while still leaving an impact: “Next time you might want to give a little more attention to the audience. I find it helpful to look people in the eyes while I am speaking.”

給出建議

記住：有建設(shè)性的建議的目標(biāo)不是讓對方難受，而是幫助人成長。避免直接的指責(zé)他人，試著將訊息以輕松愉快的方式傳達(dá)給對方。表達(dá)方式像是：”Next time you might want to“或”I find it helpful to“當(dāng)仍然帶有沖擊性的時候可以沖淡指責(zé)意味：”Next time you might want to give a little more attention to the audience. I find it helpful to look people in the eyes while I am speaking.”

Stay specific

People can’t change overnight, especially if they don’t get detailed direction. Simply saying “you need to work on your presentation skills” won’t help a soul! Be detailed in your advice, and don’t overload anyone with criticism. Remember, you want them to keep trying and improving. Don’t leave them feeling defeated!

明確的表達(dá)

人是無法一夜之間改變的，尤其當(dāng)他們無法獲得詳細(xì)引導(dǎo)的時候。簡單地說:”you need to work on your presentation skills”對于心靈將沒有幫助！將你的建議詳細(xì)些，不要給予負(fù)荷不了的批評。記得，你希望他們是不斷的嘗試及改進(jìn)。不要使他們感到如此挫折！

其實，批評也是門藝術(shù)。看看這些常用的批評語句，也許你下次就用上了呢。

Unfortunately, this is not up to standard/not up to par.

很不幸，您的工作不合格/沒有達(dá)到要求。

Not bad, but there's room for improvement.

不是太糟糕，但是還可以做得更好。

You need to be more focused.

您應(yīng)該更集中精力。

There were gaps in your report. Please be more thorough.

你的報告有很多漏洞，請寫得更完整些。

The boss found careless mistakes in your proposal. Please be more detail-oriented.

老板在你的提議中找出了粗心的錯誤，請再認(rèn)真細(xì)心點(diǎn)兒。

I was hasty. I jumped the gun.

我太急于求成，開始得太倉促了。

I overlooked some facts. I'll be more thorough.

我忽視了一些事實，我會更全面地看問題的。