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An eight-year-old may view a hammer as a toy.
一個八歲孩子也許會把錘子當(dāng)作玩具。
The parent, however, sees it as a soon-to-be broken finger.
而父母則視為即將砸到手指的危險信號。
Children and parents are rarely on the same page when it comes to potential danger.
面對潛在的危險時，父母和孩子們的腦電波很少在一個頻率上。
And when the child is denied a seemingly fun activity with an authoritarian, “No, that's not safe,” there's a high chance of conflict.
“不，這可不安全，”當(dāng)孩子們總是迫于這樣的權(quán)力威壓不得不放棄自認(rèn)為有趣的活動時，矛盾沖突便呼之欲出。
But explaining why something is dangerous gets better results, according to a study in the Journal of Pediatric Psychology.
但如果解釋為什么危險，則會起到較好的溝通效果，這是根據(jù)一項在《兒童心理學(xué)》雜志發(fā)表的研究得出的結(jié)論。
Researchers showed 63 mothers and their eight-and 10-year-olds photos of children engaged in various dicey endeavors, like chopping wood with an axe or riding a skateboard.
研究人員們對63位母親和她們8至10歲的孩子們展示了多組兒童進行冒險性行為的照片，比如用斧頭砍木頭或者游玩滑板。
Each pair then tried to agree on a safety rating for each situation.
之后每組母親和孩子會試著對每種照片上的情況進行安全性評估。
And moms were much better able to convince the child of the danger when they followed a couple of rules.
當(dāng)大人們按照一些原則進行判斷的時候，母親們對確認(rèn)孩子們進行的危險活動可以做出很有說服力的意見。
The most convincing moms first focused on the reasons that made the situation dangerous, like that ladder is high and wobbly.
最有說服力的母親首先是著眼于孩子所處環(huán)境的危險性，像是梯子很高，搖搖晃晃等情況。
Next they pointed out possible consequences: if you climb the ladder you could lose your balance and fall.
下一步她們則會指出有可能因此發(fā)生的后果：如果你爬上梯子，你有可能會失去平衡并摔下來。
It may sound obvious but the researchers say that offering reasonable explanations allows children to become more skilled at assessing similar situations on their own.
理由聽上去是淺顯易懂，但研究人員們表示提出合理的解釋可以使孩子們變得對自己身處類似環(huán)境時候的考量更熟練。
And this will help them avoid learning lessons about potential danger the hard way.
而這將有助于他們對潛在的危險有所防范。
