陳豪在北京的ABC美國公司工作。他下班后跟美國同事Amy一起去參加應酬。
　　(Office ambience)
　　C：謝謝你陪我來，Amy, 每次公司有這種應酬，我都特別不自在。
　　A：Why not? They are usually upscale events held in attractive places with good food.
　　C：吃的倒是不錯，可我不習慣跟陌生人接觸。
　　A：That's one of the reasons we go, to meet other business people and build productive relationships.
　　C：那除了多認識人，還有其他原因嗎？
　　A：Yes, reconnecting with people to maintain professional contacts.
　　C：遇到熟人還好，不過我最怕的就是跟陌生人打交道，老覺得特尷尬。
　　A：We talked a while back about being prepared, finding out about the people who will be at the event and planning what you will talk about.
　　C：我每次都準備得挺好，可一到現場，就不知所措了。怎樣做才能不讓人覺得魯莽呢？
　　A：To be courteous, you need to know which people are approachable and which ones are not.
　　C：我怎么知道什么人愿意理睬我呢？
　　A：Let's find a quiet spot where I can give you a few tips.
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　　陳豪和Amy走到一個人少得地方。
　　C：Any, 你快告訴我，什么樣的人我可以主動走過去搭訕呢？
　　A：The most approachable ones are standing alone. They are probably looking for someone to talk to.
　　C：如果他們不想說話呢？
　　A：There are signals you can use to see if the person standing alone is friendly or not.
　　C：你是說肢體語言嗎？
　　A：That's right. Look the other person in the eye as you approach. If he looks away or ignores you, that's a clear message that he is not interested in meeting you.
　　C：如果他避開我的目光，就是沒興趣。那你剛才說的微笑呢？
　　A：After you have made eye contact, smile at the person. If he returns your smile, you have a non-verbal invitation to approach.
　　C：如果從對方的肢體語言能看出，他不愿跟別人交談呢？
　　A：Move on and look for someone else.
　　C：那如果大家都在交談，我就只好能別人來找我了？
　　A：That would be a waste of time. Look for a group of three or more people and try the same tactic.
　　C：那我是不是要立刻進行自我介紹？
　　A：Walk up to the group, stand slightly back, make eye contact with each one and smile. A soon as they acknowledge you, introduce yourself.
　　C：如果他們對我不理不睬呢？
　　A：Same as before. Keep moving until you find welcoming people.
　　C：那 是不是只有有兩個人在交談，應該更容易加入吧？
　　A：Absolutely not. Those are the people you want to avoid.