致憂傷的你

Dear Anyone Having a Bad Week,

親愛的度過糟糕一周的你：

I'm sorry. I have no idea why your week is bad, or how bad it actually is. I don't know if you've told anyone, if there's anything that could fix it or if it's made you rather unpleasant to be around. But I do know that I'm sorry that you're hurting, or stressed, or exhausted, or grieving, or frustrated, or depressed, or lonely, or scared or lost.

我很抱歉，我無從知曉你的這一周為何很糟糕，也不知道實際情況到底有多糟。不知道你是否有找人傾訴，是否有什么方式可以讓你好受一些或者說現實是否讓你更加難過。但是我清楚地知道我為你一切不好的情緒感到深深的同情，無論是你受到傷害或者感到壓力，亦或是感到疲憊、悲傷、筋疲力盡、沮喪、孤獨、害怕還是迷失。

I thought about writing this letter in a couple of different ways. I thought about writing it about the things you could do to feel better: show yourself compassion, go outside and look at the trees, look at a baby photo of yourself. Or I thought about focusing the letter on how the "bad weeks" can actually be pretty beautiful if you look at them the right way. I almost wrote those letters, and maybe at some point I will, but I think I ended up deciding that I wasn't writing to make anyone feel better -- I just want you to feel heard.

我想象過用各種不同的方式來寫這封信。我想象寫一些可以讓你感到好些的事情：比如對自己表示同情、出去看看樹木或者看看自己兒時的照片；或者我也想象過將信的著重點放在，如果你用正確的方式來看待“糟糕的一周”，你或許會發現這一周實際很美好。我差一點就那樣寫了，也許將來會這樣寫。但是現在我最終決定不寫這些。——我只是想讓你們感到，有人聽到了你們的心聲。

There's something about humans that makes us crave for our pain to be recognized. There is something inherently good and comforting in having someone say, "Yeah, that sounds really hard," or, "It really sucks that you have to deal with all that."

作為人類本身，我們都渴望自己的悲傷被了解。如果有人能在這個時候對你說“是的，那聽起來的確很糟”或者“你需要面對這些真的是太不幸了”，我們的內心都會感到些許好轉或安慰。

But unfortunately, that's not always the direction that society pushes us in. We have been taught that bad days are to be silently borne beneath a bright smile; that expressions of pain are uncomfortable.

但不幸的是，現實并不總能按照我們期望的方向發展。我們總是被告知需要隱藏自己的悲傷，展露自己的微笑。而這種表達方式讓人并不舒服。

I want you to know you can feel free to spill your bad day all over the place and wear it on the front of your shirt.

我想要讓你知道，你可以在任何地方自由表露你的壞情緒，你甚至可以將它畫在T恤上穿在你的身上。

I want you to know that the expressions of your pain are beautiful and that I will try my very hardest to feel the hurt with you. I want you to know that your grumpy, stressed-out, short self is just as awesome as your cheerful self. Please do not shun your suffering.

我想要讓你知道你表現出來的悲傷也很美麗，我會盡我最大的努力來盡量感受你的不幸。我想要讓你知道，有壞情緒、壓力感和小脾氣的你與快樂時的你一樣可愛。請不要再壓抑自己的情感。

In writing this, know that I hear you, and let yourself be healed. I hope your day turns around, and that even if it doesn't, you can still find a few moments of beauty and/or happiness amidst the crappiness. For all of you not having bad days -- carry on, and enjoy.

在寫這篇文章時，我聽到了你們的心聲，請讓自己盡快好起來。我希望你們日子恢復正常，即使不能，你仍然可以發現一些美好的瞬間或者苦中作樂一下。為了不讓你們自己持續這種糟糕的日子，向前看，去享受生活吧！

Sincerely,

此致

Clara Wagner

克拉拉·瓦格納

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