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There are these other identities which you have to learn from a peer group.
還有一些身份認同是你從同齡人群中獲得的。
And I call them horizontal identities,
我稱它們?yōu)樗缴矸菡J同，
because the peer group is the horizontal experience.
因為和同伴一起活動，接觸，是所謂的一種經(jīng)驗。
These are identities that are alien to your parents and that you have to discover when you get to see them in peers.
這些身份認同與你從父母處得來的不同，你需要通過接觸同伴自己發(fā)掘。
And those identities, those horizontal identities,
這種身份認同，我指的是水平身份認同，
people have almost always tried to cure.
就是人們最希望去治愈的部分。
And I wanted to look at what the process is through which people who have those identities come to a good relationship with them.
我想要研究的是，這是怎樣的過程，有著這些身份認同的人們是怎么和他們保持好的關系的。
And it seemed to me that there were three levels of acceptance that needed to take place.
在我看來，有三種不同程度的接受。
There's self-acceptance, there's family acceptance, and there's social acceptance.
這三種是，自我接受，家庭接納，社會接納。
And they don't always coincide.
它們并不一定同步發(fā)生。
And a lot of the time, people who have these conditions are very angry because they feel as though their parents don't love them,
很多時候，這樣的人很易怒，因為他們覺得，他們的父母并不愛他們，
when what actually has happened is that their parents don't accept them.
真實的情況是，他的父母不接受他們。
Love is something that ideally is there unconditionally throughout the relationship between a parent and a child.
最理想的愛就是父母和孩子之間那種無條件的愛。
But acceptance is something that takes time.
但接受是需要時間。
It always takes time.
接受總是需要時間的。
One of the dwarfs I got to know was a guy named Clinton Brown.
我認識的一個小矮人，名叫克林頓布朗。
When he was born, he was diagnosed with diastrophic dwarfism,
他出生的時候就被診斷為畸形侏儒癥，
a very disabling condition,
他的殘疾非常嚴重，
and his parents were told that he would never walk, he would never talk,
他的父母被告知，他永久喪失行走能力和語言能力，
he would have no intellectual capacity,
他也沒有獲取知識的能力，
and he would probably not even recognize them.
他甚至也不會認識他的父母。
And it was suggested to them that they leave him at the hospital so that he could die there quietly.
醫(yī)院給他父母的建議是把他留在醫(yī)院，他可以在那里平靜地離世。
And his mother said she wasn't going to do it.
他的母親說，她不會這樣做。
And she took her son home.
她把她的兒子帶回了家。
And even though she didn't have a lot of educational or financial advantages,
盡管她沒有什么學歷，也不是很富有，
she found the best doctor in the country for dealing with diastrophic dwarfism,
她還是找到了治療畸形侏儒癥全國最頂級的醫(yī)生，
and she got Clinton enrolled with him.
她讓克林頓接受治療。
