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"Oh, if only I had played it better! He would still be mine!"
“噢，如果當初我更高明些就好了！那他現(xiàn)在還是我的。”
Or simply, you're worried that he's dead on the street somewhere.
或者，你很擔心他會不會在街上或某個地方死掉了。
Why else would he just disappear like that?
要不然他怎么會突然人間蒸發(fā)呢？
So then, you want to call him and say something. Or write him.
接著，你就想打電話給他說點什么，或者給他寫信。
You're either angry or hurt, or still holding out hope that's he's in a coma at a hospital somewhere.
你要不就是感到很生氣或很受傷，或還殘存希望，他現(xiàn)在在某地醫(yī)院昏迷不醒。
But however you feel, you definitely think it is your right to either yell at him or find out what happened.
但無論你是什么心情，你堅信你有權(quán)利朝他大吼，或是找出真相。
What's worse than not knowing? Nothing. Except maybe not getting to tell him off.
有什么能比一無所知更糟糕呢？沒有。也許不能大罵他一頓除外。
Greg would say that the best revenge in this situation is not anger, but emotional distance, as quickly as possible.
格雷格會說，在此情況下，憤怒并不是最好的報復方式，盡快從情感上疏遠對方才是。
Greg would say that we have the answer.
格雷格會說，我們知道答案。
He didn't want to stick around, and wasn't man enough to tell us to our face. Isn't that answer enough?
他不想留在我們身邊，也沒有膽量當面跟我們說清楚。這還不足以說明問題嗎？
That's when I would say to Greg, "No, actually it's not. That answer's definitely not good enough. I want to know why."
就是那時，我會告訴格雷格，“不，真的不夠。這個答案一點也不好。我想知道原因。”
And then Greg would say, "Really? Are you sure? Do you really need him to detail every last reason why he didn't feel like seeing you ever again?"
然后格雷格會說，“真的嗎？你確定嗎？你真的要他仔仔細細跟你說清楚他不想再見你的全部原因嗎？”
I hate Greg.
我恨格雷格。
Breakups are horrible. But to me, what's truly devastating is to feel like you weren't even worth a breakup.
分手很糟糕。但對我來說，更讓我備受打擊的是，自己好像連一個正式分手都不值。
Again, it's natural to want to do something about that.
重申一遍，想去做些什么是很正常的。
Greg just wants that "something" to be about moving on, as opposed to looking back.
格雷格希望那個“什么”是指向前看，與回首過去相反。
Not having closure is one of the most difficult things for me (and many people) to live with, so I know why it might be impossible not to call the cad.
對我而言，得不到了斷是我（和許多人一樣）最無法忍受的事情之一，所以我很清楚為什么不給那個混蛋打電話是不可能做到的。
But I guess Greg would lecture you again (he's such a know-it-all) , and say that before you make that phone call or write that e-mail, you should at least play it out in your head.
但我猜格雷格會再教訓你一頓（他自以為無所不知），告訴你，在你撥那通電話或?qū)懩欠忄]件之前，至少在腦子里先預演一遍。
Will it really make you feel better? Do you think it will really change the way he feels about what he did, or you?
那真的會讓你感覺好些嗎？你真的以為那能改變他的看法嗎，對自己的所作所為或是對你？
Is it the only thing you can think of that will help you move on?
你只能想到這個辦法來讓自己向前看嗎？
If it is, then I say the hell with Greg—give the guy a call.
若果真如此，我會說，讓格雷格見鬼去吧——快給那個男的打電話。
But I guess the hope is (for me, at least) that when a guy no longer wants to communicate with me, and doesn't have the manners or courage to tell me that to my face, he's given me all the information I need.
但我猜，當一個家伙再也不想和我交流，也沒有基本的禮貌或勇氣當面跟我說，他其實已經(jīng)告訴了我所有信息。
It's the toughest one of all to put into practice.
而將其付諸行動則是世上最難的事。
But I definitely like the kind of girl who could do it. Good luck to us all!
但我一定會喜歡那種能做得到的女孩兒。祝我們好運！
