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I Said It And I Meant It!
言出必行!堅信自己所堅持的！
Think of the last time you exercised and said to yourself, “I can do it” or “I can do three more reps” or “I can go another 10 minutes” with grit and determination. Did your words make you push harder? Did you give your very best effort to achieve your desired outcome?
回想一下上次你鍛煉時對自己說的那些豪言壯語——“我可以的”、“我還能多做三個”或“我還能再堅持十分鐘”，它們有沒有讓你更加努力?你是否為了達(dá)成目標(biāo)傾盡全力了呢?
Now think of an occasion when you said things like “I am tired today” or “I don’t think I can do anymore” or “I can’t go any longer.” What happened? Did this little voice in the back of your mind sound defeated? Were you able to push yourself or did you give up?
那么現(xiàn)在想想每次你說“我今天好累”或者“我再也做不了了”，又或者“我再也堅持不下去了”這些話的時候，結(jié)果又怎樣了呢?你能克服腦海里這樣微不足道的念頭嗎?你能督促自己嗎?還是你放棄了?
The common denominator in both circumstances is your inner voice. Yet the results are dramatically different depending on the nature of your “conversation.” Your statements can either gave you energy to push harder or they can suck the life out of you and cause you to quit.
這兩種情況的共同點(diǎn)在于：它們都反映了你內(nèi)心的聲音。但根據(jù)這兩種“自我對話”性質(zhì)上的差異，結(jié)果是截然不同的。你的心理暗示要么給你動力讓你更努力，要么消耗生命讓你從此自暴自棄。
The Power of Self-Talk post describes how the conversations we have with ourselves influence every part of our lives. If our internal dialog is positive and focuses on our talents, skills and abilities we are encouraged, optimistic and more likely to achieve our goals.
一篇名為“自我對話的力量”的文章揭示了自我對話如何影響我們生活的每一部分的奧秘。如果我們的心理暗示是積極的而且集中于自身天賦、技能和能力，那么我們就會倍受鼓舞，樂觀向上，從而更容易實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的目標(biāo)。
On the other hand, if our thoughts focus on our faults, mistakes, weaknesses, insecurities, or fears, it will be virtually impossible to feel confident and advance our lives forward.
相反，如果我們的思想集中于自身缺陷錯誤，心神不定，破綻百出，畏首畏尾，那就幾乎不可能有自信，生命也得不到升華。
All of this illustrates that what we say to ourselves impacts our emotions, attitude and outlook. Since this internal dialog is so important, how can we use it to help us achieve our personal best?
所有這些都表明，我們的情緒、態(tài)度和觀念都受自己心理暗示的影響。既然自我對話如此重要，那么我們該如何利用它們以做最棒的自己呢?
The answer is simple. Be intentional about saying things to yourself that will help you achieve your desired outcome.
答案很簡單：刻意暗示自己一些有助于實(shí)現(xiàn)預(yù)定目標(biāo)的話語。
Guiding Statements
導(dǎo)向型話語
Throughout my career I have consistently focused on using what I call guiding statements- statements designed to help direct my thinking.
在整個職業(yè)生涯中，我都始終把精力集中于那些能引導(dǎo)我思維的話語，我稱它們?yōu)閷?dǎo)向型話語。
Here are some examples of the types of guiding statements I say to myself.
以下是我自己使用的一些導(dǎo)向型話語類型的例子。
If I am working on an important project that must be completed today I will say, “I will get this done today” over and over again throughout the day.If I am listening to someone and feel I have something important to contribute I will say, “Listen and don’t interrupt.”If I am getting frustrated or defensive, I will repeat in my mind, “Speak in love.”If I am thinking about something that is depressing me I will say, “I am not going to think about XX (failure, mistake or blunder) any longer. I have learned all I can learn and I am moving on”, then I use my self-control to change my thinking.If I want to think positive or optimistic thoughts, I will use positive affirmations such as, “I can do it”, “I will be successful at this”, “I will give a killer presentation”, “I will earn that promotion”, “I will walk across the stage and get that award” or “I am getting better everyday.” There are literally thousands of positive statements, individually designed, that can help you focus your thoughts in a positive direction.
如果我正在做一項很重要的工作，而且今天內(nèi)就要完成，我會一整天不斷對自己說：“我今天會把它做完的”。如果我在聽別人說話的時候覺得自己有不同意見，我會對自己說：“不要打斷他”。如果我很沮喪或者憤怒，我會在腦海中一遍遍重復(fù)：“不要惡語傷人”。如果我在想一件讓我很郁悶的事，我會對自己說：“我再也不會想這些事情(失敗、失誤或大錯事)了。能學(xué)的我都學(xué)了，并且還在不斷進(jìn)步。”然后通過自我控制改變想法。如果我想變得積極樂觀，我會給予自己正面肯定，如：“我能做到的”、“我會成功的”、“我的演講肯定會征服聽眾”、“我會爭取到那個升職機(jī)會的”、“我將走上臺領(lǐng)取屬于我的榮譽(yù)”或者“我一天比一天優(yōu)秀”。有成千上萬種為你量身定制的積極話語，它們將引領(lǐng)你的思想走向積極樂觀。
The extensive research on this subject proves without a shadow of doubt that the things we say to ourselves influence our beliefs, attitudes and actions and ultimately the level of success, happiness and fulfillment we enjoy.
對這一話題的廣泛研究證明，自我對話會影響我們的信念，態(tài)度和行動并最終影響我們的成就感，幸福度和滿足感。
