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The "But He's out of Town a Lot" Excuse
“但是他經常出遠門”的借口
Dear Greg,
親愛的格雷格，
I've been seeing this guy for about four months.
我和這家伙戀愛四個月了。
He goes out of town a lot, so we're just doing this casual thing.
他經常出遠門，所以我們就是維持著不定期的關系。
But then we'll start spending some consistent time together, and just when I get up the nerve to have a "talk" about where the relationship is going, he has to leave town again.
但是接著我們會花一些固定的時間在一起，然后正當我鼓起勇氣談談我們戀愛關系的進展時，他有要出遠門了。
I feel stupid talking to him about things when he's just about to leave town.
我覺得在他要出遠門的時候跟他談論這些事情很愚蠢。
But when he gets back, I feel stupid bringing it up when we haven't seen each other in a while.
但是當他回來之后，我覺得在彼此有段時間沒見的情況下重提此事也很蠢。
It's hard for me to broach this subject—we have such a nice time together that I don't want to ruin it with a "relationship" talk.
提出這個問題對我來說很難，我們一起度過了許多美好的時光，我不想因為一次“戀愛關系”的談話而毀了它。
Sighed Marissa
瑪麗薩
Dear Time Traveler,
親愛的時間旅行者，
Here's the little secret about some guys who travel: They look forward to leaving.
這是一些旅行者的小秘密：他們期待離開。
They quite like having the frequent flier miles and the built-in escape hatch.
他們很喜歡飛行里程和內置的逃生艙。
It's hard to hit a moving target.
移動的靶子很難擊中。
There are ways to travel and be in a relationship, and there are ways to travel and make sure you stay out of one.
有的方法可以一邊旅行一邊維持戀愛關系，有的方法可以在旅行的同時擺脫戀愛關系。
The easy way to know the difference is if the guy tells you all the time how bummed he is that he has to keep leaving you.
最容易的區分方式在于男人是否一直在向你傾訴離開你他有多么的煩惱。
If he is not making a serious effort to make sure that while he's out of town you don't go out and find someone else, then I think you've just boarded the he's-just-not-into-you jet.
如果他沒有十分努力以確保在他離開期間你不會去找別人，那么我覺得你應該知道你登上的是一架他并沒有那么喜歡你的飛機。
Buckle up. Greg
系好安全帶。格雷格
You have every right to know what's going on between you and someone you're knocking socks with.
你有權知道你和自己同床共枕的人之間發生了什么。
And the more confident you are that you deserve that (and much more) , the more you'll be able to ask your big questions in a way that won't feel heavy and dramatic, I guarantee you.
你越自信你應得的(以及更多)，我保證你更能在問大問題時不會感到沉重和戲劇性。
It's So Simple
顯而易見
From this moment on, right now, as you read this, make this solemn vow about your future romantic relationships: no more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared.
從這一刻開始，現在，當你讀這本書的時候，對你未來的愛情做出這個莊嚴的宣誓：不再困惑，不再陰郁，沒有更多不確定，也沒有更多不明。
And if at all possible, try to know someone as best you can before you get naked with them.
如果這些都可以實現的話，試著在跟人滾床單前先盡可能的了解對方。
