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You Are All Dating the Same Guy
你們在跟一樣的家伙約會
Hey. I know that guy you're dating.
嘿，我知道你的約會對象是什么人。
Yeah, I do. He's that guy that's so tired from work, so stressed about the project he's working on.
是的，我知道。他上班太累了，因為工作項目而飽受壓力。
He's just been through an awful breakup and it's really hitting him hard.
他剛經歷了一場糟糕的分手，倍受打擊。
His parents' divorce has scarred him and he has trust issues.
父母離異使他傷痕累累，有信任危機。
Right now he has to focus on his career.
現(xiàn)在他必須專注于自己的職業(yè)生涯。
He can't get involved with anyone until he knows what his life is about.
他無法和任何人談戀愛，直到他弄清楚生活的真正意義。
He just got a new apartment and the move is a bitch.
他剛搬到了一個新的公寓，這舉動簡直是大錯特錯。
As soon as it all calms down he'll leave his wife, girlfriend, crappy job.
等到一切都平靜下來后，他就會離開他的妻子，女朋友，以及糟糕的工作。
God, he's so complicated.
上帝啊，他是如此復雜。
He is a man made up entirely of your excuses.
他是一個完全由你的借口組成的男人。
And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life.
當你停止為他找借口后，他將會從你的生活里完全消失。
Are there men who are too busy or have been through something so horrible that makes it hard for them to get involved?
真的有由于太忙或經歷過如此可怕的東西導致讓他們很難談戀愛的男人么？
Yes, but there are so few of them that they should be considered urban legends.
是的，但是數(shù)量非常之少以至于他們應該被視為都市傳奇。
For as already suggested, a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he's just not that into you.
鑒于已經說過的，一個男人寧愿被一只狂躁的大象踐踏也不愿告訴你，他只是沒那么喜歡你。
That's why we've written this book.
這就是我們寫這本書的原因。
We wanted to get the excuses out of the closet, so to speak, so they can be seen for exactly what they are: really bad excuses.
我們希望借口可以大白于天下，這么說吧，它們可以展示自己的真實面目：真正糟糕的借口。
Hey—do you remember that movie when the girl waited around for the guy to ask her out, then made excuses when he didn't?
嘿，你還記得那部電影——那個女孩在等待那家伙約她出去，然后在他沒約她出去時替他找借口？
Then she slept with him when they were both drunk, and basically just hung around until they were kind of dating?
然后她在他們都喝醉之后和他上床，基本只在他們類似約會的時候出去玩。
Then he cheated on her, but because she knew deep down inside that if she forgave him and kept her expectations low and was really agreeable that she'd get him in the end?
然后他背著她偷腥，但是由于她內心深處知道如果她原諒了他，對他抱持低期望，最終真的能愉快的和他一起終老么？
He was drunk at the wedding but they lived miserably ever after in an unsatisfying relationship that was built on a shitty foundation?
在婚禮上他喝醉了，但他們在一個糟糕的基礎上建立了一個不滿意的戀愛關系之后，過著悲慘的生活。
You don't?
你不記得了？
That's because those movies don't get made, because that's not what love is like.
那是因為那些電影不是虛構的，因為愛情并非如此。
People are inspired to do remarkable things to find and be with the one they love.
人們被激勵去轟轟烈烈的找尋并愛情與他們愛的人廝守。
Big movies are made about it, and every relationship you admire bursts with a greatness that you hope for in your own life.
熱門片就是一些這樣的內容，你羨慕的每一場轟轟烈烈的戀愛都是你希望能在自己的生活中獲得的。
And the more you value yourself, the more chance you'll have of getting it.
你越珍惜自己的價值，你就越有機會得到它。
So listen to these excuses, have a laugh, and then...put them all to rest. You're worth it.
所以聽聽這些借口，一笑而過，然后……使之平息。你值得擁有。
