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Dear Annie: When I was in college, I was good friends with "Carrie." When Carrie met my boyfriend, she was rather intoxicated and said some hurtful things about him. Carrie went on and on about how she couldn't believe I would date a frat boy, that I was better than that, etc.
親愛的安妮：大學時，我有個好朋友叫“凱利”。凱利見到我男朋友時喝醉了，然后把他說得一無是處。她滔滔不絕地講著，說她還是不敢相信我會跟一個聯誼會的男孩交往，我能找到更好的，等等。
Carrie apologized the next day. I married the boyfriend and still keep in touch with Carrie. But even after two years, I cannot shake what she said. I know her well enough to realize that while she was sorry, she meant every word. Carrie has asked to visit a couple of times, and I keep making excuses because it would be uncomfortable.
第二天凱利道歉了。我與男朋友結了婚，與凱利還保持著聯系。但即使兩年過后，我還是不能忘記她說過的話。我很了解她，她如果道歉，每一句都是認真的。好幾次凱利想來拜訪我，我都找借口拒絕了，因為這讓我感覺不舒服。
I know her loose tongue was a result of the drinking and she did apologize, but I can't forget the incident. What should I say when she tells me she'd like to come and stay with us? — Confused Since College
我知道她嘴巴不嚴是因為喝醉的緣故，而且她的確道歉了，但我始終無法忘記那件事。她再提起想過來跟我們住一陣子時，我該怎么做呢？
Dear Confused: Even if Carrie meant those words at the time, it doesn't mean she still feels that way. Before inviting Carrie to visit, have a frank discussion. Tell her you are still bothered by those comments about your husband and, because you value the friendship so highly, would like to clear the air. See what she says before checking her off your guest list.
親愛的小糊涂：即使凱利當時是認真的，也不代表她現在還那樣認為。在邀請她之前，與她開誠布公地談一次話。告訴她你還在為當年她的出言不遜而煩惱，因為你是如此珍視你們之間的友誼，所以想消除誤會。看看她會有何反應，然后再決定是否將它從客人名單上劃掉。
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