Letter to a Young Friend

by Benjamin Franklin

My dear friend

I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural inclination you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of man, and therefore the state in which you will find solid Happiness.Your Reason against entering into it at present appears to be not well founded. The Circumstantial Advantages you have in view by Postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that makes the complete human Being, Separate she wants his force of Body and Strength of Reason; he her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are most likely to succeed in the World. A single man has not nearly the value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal.He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissors.

If you get a prudent, health wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.

Your Affectionate Friend

給年輕朋友的一封信

本杰明·富蘭克林

我知道沒(méi)有藥物能夠消除你們所提到的那種瘋狂的自然傾向;即使我知道,我想我也不該告訴你.婚姻是適當(dāng)?shù)乃幬铩Ｋ侨祟?lèi)最本能的狀態(tài), 因此是一種最幸福的生活狀態(tài)。你拒絕現(xiàn)在進(jìn)入婚姻殿堂的理由顯的不夠充分.你認(rèn)為推遲婚姻可能存在好處,不僅不一定實(shí)現(xiàn)，而且,那些利益跟婚姻本身以及婚后的安定相比起來(lái)就微不足道了。男人和女人只有聯(lián)合起來(lái)才能組成完整的人.女人缺乏男人的力量和周密的推理,而男人缺乏女人的溫柔、感性和敏銳的洞察力。因此當(dāng)男人和女人聯(lián)合起來(lái)。就能夠無(wú)往不勝。單身和離婚生活的男男女女不可能具有婚姻生活中的價(jià)值，是一種不完善的動(dòng)物。他簡(jiǎn)直好比半把剪刀--孤掌難鳴。

如果你擁有一位健康而謹(jǐn)慎的妻子，你的辛勤工作，加上她的勤儉節(jié)約，必定會(huì)創(chuàng)造充足的財(cái)富。

您真摯的朋友